This is the end.

[RiceisNice]

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Ok, let me look at this from an outside perspective, because you're only giving us your side of the story.

So i'm in a dungeon having a good time when all of the sudden im being crucified for having Mage's Bailed up. Being told thats it pointless to have up. Mind you i had it up for the sake of the healer maybe wanting to DPS a little.

You're playing mage's ballad when it's not needed. Healers have their own ways of managing mana. In a typical dungeon run, they should never be running out anyway, and they certainly do not need ballad even if they're at 50% in a dungeon run. This also lowers your own damage. If you're playing it to no benefit (which is the case), you're lowering your damage for no payoff. In fact, you have a song that boosts magic damage without lowering your own damage.

See i have a DRK and i know that when you have Darkside up you don't get the effects of Mage's bailed, but what about when its off. Then Mage's bailed does work. So i tell the Bard maybe she should consider not telling people how to play there jobs.

Most DRKs don't turn off darkside if they can properly manage it. Turning it off and turning it on inbetween pulls has no net gain most of the time due to the cost of activation. And especially the bolded part. This is literally the worst thing for me to see in a DF party when people are purposely subperforming or otherwise slowing down their party.

That was it nothing else was said by me.

Combine that with above, I can see why some people can get upset with what you're doing (me included). You're giving off the impression that you're free to become a burden to your party. And unfortunately, at that point it's considered a player dispute since you responded, and most GMs would not touch this as far as contesting a vote kick. Because honestly, I'm sure the same would happen if a healer was healing in cleric stance, or a tank was having trouble/clinching onto the brink of death because they won't turn on their tanking stance. I'm fine with people genuinely do not know their class and listen to advice, I'm not fine with people that don't ever communicate and play terribly and essentially get carried.

unless there is some saving grace that will fix this toxic community from the egotistical ass holes that consume it.

Says the person that feels they can play how they want regardless of how it affects the party.

Now this may not be the case, but I'm giving an outside perspective that you and everyone else may not be considering.