I for one support parsers, they have helped me and others in my former static group.

Here's and example: We had two dragoons in our static, me and somebody else, her gear was somewhat better than mine, yet her DPS was half of what I was able to pull off, so what did we do? We trained her.

I admit that parsers can be wrongly used by gauging someone's DPS and getting downright offensive about it, it has happened to me too, so the best fix I can think of is growing a thicker skin. Simply enjoying the game whether you are good at it or not is fine by itself, but in my opinion it's different when it's about MMOs, you are playing with other people who you don't even know, so it's inconvenient for the others if you aren't pulling your weight. Hardly a big deal in dungeons and other casual content, but don't even think about trying to clear any of the harder content if you aren't willing to up your game accordingly.