Real life Lala killing my game time

[Rune_Crystalblade]

I would sooner remove by ability to do so.

See there's my point right there. If your parents didn't have something to de-stress on, they'd have probably sold you to the Chinese.

[Vespar]

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Im pretty sure Gramul was being sarcastic in regards to my previous post. Please, understand I wasn't trying to be rude. Like Rune said, video games are an outlet for many people and its important to remember that this is a game for fun. So remember your fellow players, it can be incredibly frustrating when your in a dungeon and someone has to afk every 2 minutes because "baby". That's not fun... Just try to remember that. If you are constantly having to drop party or afk for this reason, perhaps you should stop playing and return when your life is a bit more stable and baby doesn't require your every moment of attention.
This is why i made the post I did. Ive had this happen. Numerous times in fact, and while I may not have children yet, if I did, I wouldn't subject others to that kind of frustration just because I have kids. That doesnt mean I have to stop gaming. Just that I should maybe stick to games that I can pause without griefing other players.

Edit: Or maybe he wasnt being sarcastic. Just saw the post after I made mine ^^;;

[Gramul]

See there's my point right there. If your parents didn't have something to de-stress on, they'd have probably sold you to the Chinese.

They had their chance.

[Rune_Crystalblade]

It depends on the kid honestly, they're all different and all require different levels of attention. Even newborns. Some will sleep for a huge chunk of their first year, Others are awake for most of it. Each person just has to use their discretion in regards to their child's needs.

[Rune_Crystalblade]

They had their chance.

Might be a good thing, I'd hate the Fuel the RMT army

[SakuraMidori]

always hug your lala or this may happ My sis just had to hug me :P

[Gramul]

Or maybe he wasn't being sarcastic.

Yes. I fully believe with all my heart that you cease to be human after to transmit your shared life force into a new shell. As such, you must dedicate the rest of your existence to the direct well being of the new vessel.
The time for happiness is over. You're dead inside! Start acting like it!

[gehrtalert]

Not trying to be rude here but it will likely come off as such... but I don't understand why people with newborns play MMO's.... etc

Totally agree with you. I'm guna assume that you dont have any offspring. Most of the time, its a pretty consistent schedule. Eat, play, poop, then sleep. When a naptime seems like it should be 2 hours or so or you lay the baby down for the night... its usually safe to presume you have a while to yourself. Which is almost always not the case. You do honestly come off as rude but as someone who was on the baby-less side of the Duty finder 4 months ago.. I know what its like to be subjected to vital roles going afk or suddenly leaving an instance. Its pretty effin annoying. Perhaps SE should make a babysitter's world where DoH/DOL and /follow are king. Because all we want is a sleeping kid and exp.

[Vespar]

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My apologies that it came off as rude. I really meant no offense. For that you have my sincerest apologies. My post was showing "ignorance is bliss" I guess while I was trying to understand the struggles of being a gamer and a parent. I do appreciate you taking the time to explain your predicament ^^ I am certain its pretty frustrating being a new father or mother. But I also imagine its just as rewarding. After all its a brand new world you just stepped into. Despite my own opinion on the matter, take it with a grain of salt. Like I said, it's not meant to offend (more like, raise awareness) and again I sincerely apologize that it did. Regardless of my post, You are right, every baby/person is different and perhaps you can strike a rhythm that will still allow you to play games like this with others and enjoy the game while still being a good dad/mom.

Good luck to you and baby! <3

[Lemuria]

My post was showing "ignorance is bliss" I guess while I was trying to understand the struggles of being a gamer and a parent.

It's an age-old struggle. As a parent, you need some time to unwind just as anyone does. Constantly looking after the needs of a screaming tot can be incredibly stressful at times, and it's nice to take a break away and do something fun. For some of us, video games are a good way to take the edge off. For me, MMO's are the best way to take the edge off because I can not only play, but interact with others (and occasionally vent some steam, so apologies to anyone who's been on the receiving end of one of my rants!).

When my youngest was still a baby, I'd play short bursts of online games. At the time it was DC Universe, since it was something I could jump in and out of fairly easily. I still played FFXI at the time, but it had to be tempered considerably with looking after her, so I drove a lot of people crazy by seemingly vanishing every few minutes. I love my daughter, but there's a point where all the cooing and doe-eyes turns into frustration at how this little poop machine managed to soil herself only half an hour after a nappy change.

I think I would have gone quite insane had I not had time to break away from it all. Luckily though, with her being my second child it wasn't so bad. I was prepared for the interruptions and constant caretaking. When my first came along, I was playing FFXI at the time and had to quit due to the stresses involved with caring for her. I didn't return until long after Abyssea had been established and she'd all grown up ready for school years.

So while I can understand why people would be frustrated at players with children, I hope they can at least understand that the frustration is often shared. We might love our children very dearly, but that doesn't mean we don't want the same things you do. To just play the game! Hmm.. hope that didn't come off too ranty by itself, I have a knack for tangents.