Why is it so hard to make close friends in this game? lol

[Razzle]

cross server friendlist and for preforming party for df would make it much more social... no one even try to make runs more social because after the run ends you'll probably won't meet again

[Lexia]

I would agree it harder to make friends when everything is instanced, like if you look at XI that was very player dependent as if you didn't know other people you weren't going to get stuff done. There people I made friends with that I still talked to years after I left XI but XIV just doesn't seem like that. If I quit XIV there probably no one that I would still talk to, there no one I talk to outside the game as it is currently playing XIV. Cause I do believe there different levels of friends.

[Anesjka]

Come to Balmung.
I'll be your friend.

Honestly, this person has a point... Balmung is super packed but most of the FC's are small tight knit people who gel together very well...I love my FC and the 2 Linkshells im in... <3 <3

[Red_Wolf]

This is the first MMO I've ever seen without a general chat or tiered-level chat. I think that's the heart of the "community" issue in this game.

[Risvertasashi]

It might be harder to find friends than it was in childhood, but to say that you cant find any anymore, is bullshit.
My closest friends i found as i started to work, while those of my Childhood are long gone.

TBH work is pretty circumstantial too. At mine, I'm about the only 20s person in an IT department full of people in their 30, 40, 50s with few common interests/hobbies. I'm not the most social person but I did OK in university; haven't done well (socially) at work.

I don't know the OP's specific situation but at least they're trying.

Honestly, this person has a point... Balmung is super packed but most of the FC's are small tight knit people who gel together very well...I love my FC and the 2 Linkshells im in... <3 <3

I'm going to second this. I'm on Balmung, and I don't even ever RP. Very vibrant community, some awesome FCs, etc.

[Truefaith87]

I'm on Coeurl, one of the smaller pop servers, but many people know each other, aside from a few who have marked themselves as "server trolls", the whole server itself seems pretty close knit. Small, not some heavy duty hardcore raiding die hard server for sure, but the community is willing to help out, and a whole lot of the folks around are on my friend list, if not in my FC itself. Even mine is about 130 people, but we are like a crazy family locked in an insane asylum most days.

[SekhmetM]

This is the first MMO I've ever seen without a general chat or tiered-level chat. I think that's the heart of the "community" issue in this game.

We do have a general chat,though. "Say" "Yell" "Shout" and "Alliance".

God forbid we ever get a server chat. Those are basically 24/7 barrens chat rooms. No thank you.

[Mishini_Dracoto]

We do have a general chat,though. "Say" "Yell" "Shout" and "Alliance".

God forbid we ever get a server chat. Those are basically 24/7 barrens chat rooms. No thank you.

If we did, I would filter it out. The RMT QQ

[Elusana_Celah]

But Kira, you're in my friends circle linkshell and we talk a lot in it every day and I invited you there personally because I consider you my friend... no one is treated badly or ignored there. You just gotta jump in and talk to us! Plus you know I offer training in T9 and FCoB you could always ask to jump into those with me and Xonius and others. The opportunity has always been here for you to get closer to us. I actually feel like you've distanced yourself from everyone after that certain incident with you-know-who... Just gotta open up more and be more actively willing to do stuff with us. I got at least 23 people good at T9 and cleared it without being carried so don't think you can't do it either! Running content together is really how we all make friends with each other :3

On an unrelated note: I feel that duty finder cross server boundaries does make it harder to make friends sorta... I started doing more party finder several months ago and actually found it pretty easy to make friends you just gotta sift through lots of drama seekers or people with bad attitudes but with enough dedication and socializing via party finder, you will make friends no problem. Being overly shy also isn't a good way to make friends I mean if you join party finder groups, say nothing for an hour then leave after it's finished... well yeah no one is going to notice you. That's just human nature. You gotta open up and be proactive in conversations. You won't always have things in common with everyone you meet but you will find at least a few, trust me!

[XoniusDragonblade]

KIRA!!!!!!!!!! Hi. You have friends...well you have a friend in me. I personally was giving you space after your "situation" and the FC disbanding, but I didn't know you felt as though you had no friends.. DUDE, I will help and do stuff with you anytime that I'm not already, or even just chat like we used to. BRO, don't feel that way...we got good people in the LS Waffles and you are ALWAYS more than welcome to talk bro. I'll try to stop being such a "stranger" since I have had a lot going on lately... I literally JUST made this forum account to respond to this lol... Any case, hope to see you in game again and HIT ME UP since I am likely on at any time and we can continue this conversation personally.... XD