As a rl female as well, I dislike the extreme masculine look of the "female" roegadyn....{no thanks}
Far too masculine, terrible skin color, just no.

Female and male elzen can indeed look quite nice, it is a shame not to see too many of them.

Lalas are "cute" and I have one of those but don't have the urge to play her often.

Male and female hyur, both have potential to look good with the right character creation choices.

As for males playing females ...that's abundant in any game, nothing new.