Lolz dude JP servers are notorious for being elitist.

I come from Malboro and now on Tonberrry myself both great communities but coming from NA->JP it was get with the program or we're cutting you out period

I was blacklisted for not being able to clear Ramuh when it first came out? Tonberry had barely even progressed through Levi at that point. JP servers are full of arrogant players just like NA servers are so I think you're just running into the wrong people all around. I've found a great community on Tonberry but they weren't helpful it was more me helping myself and just being a better player.