Sounds like this isn't the MMO for you. The problem isn't the game, it's your outlook and opinion.

Job System: I think the class system is far from boring, and well designed. In any other MMO, I'd have to go make a new character any time I wanted to try a new job. Fortunately, that's not the case with FFXIV.

Combat: Last I checked, sleep, bind, stun, and silence were in the game. Those are definitely forms of crowd control. I'm not sure what you're referring to when you say "skill chains", unless you're talking about FFXI's skillchain system. While I liked it in FFXI, there's just no way it'd work in FFXIV.

Zodiac Weapons: Your relic questline is optional. It wasn't meant to be completed in a couple of weeks. If you don't have the time or desire to finish your relic upgrade, then just get the soldiery weapon. If you want it, work for it. If you don't see it worth it, don't.

Raiding: I don't see a problem with the raiding. It's very unforgiving, granted, but it should be. WoW has watered down the raiding scene to the point of bosses practically giving you loot just for showing up. That's not how this game's raiding works. You learn the fights and how to deal with the mechanics, or you fail until you do. You shouldn't beat the boss if you're consistently messing up.

Weekly Lockout: Show me one good P2P MMORPG that doesn't have a weekly lockout on their highest-tier endgame content. It's part of the genre. You do your weekly raids, then wait until next week to do more. You're not going to escape weekly lockouts no matter what MMORPG you go to.

If you really aren't having fun with the game and it's current state, why not just stop for now? Come back later and see if it's more to your liking.