"I play the way I want" -Randomperson

[Hyrist]

There's no clear black and white circumstance. Approaching the subject with the smallest sliver of information only results in the absolute worst and polarized opinions, which happens in the majority of these forum discussions, unfortunately.

Generally speaking, I am of the opinion that when it comes to a teamwork activity, you behave as a member of a team. If you are acting purposefully contrary to what is needed of you as a team member, then it is best for the team that you are not a part of it.

However, part of the journey of finding enjoyment in a team-based game like MMORPGs, is finding a team that often agrees with your playstyle and sensibilities. And, sadly, FFXIV really does lack a bit in the team building department. (Though the players seem to do their best with what they have.)

If you find yourself contrary to the games core mechanics, than perhaps the game itself might not be for you. Currently, FFXIV isn't exactly forgiving as far as playstyle flexibility. Hopefully this will be a little less imposing in the future as more Classes begin to get their secondary jobs. But eccentric or unconventional playstyles will most often be looked upon poorly, regardless of the intentions, for good or ill, of the players critiquing it.

In the end, playing the way you want shouldn't be done at the expense of others. It's about putting forth an offering of goodwill to your fellow adventurers. Be courteous, and part of that is be responsible for the role you accepted when stepping into a random group. But being courteous is a responsibility for all players, not just the one who may seem to be lagging behind in performance. Too often we forget these things in the heat of the moment.

If something seems wrong, be sure it's not with anger you communicate with, but with concern. Otherwise you are purposefully spoiling the pastime of someone else, the very same grievance you're letting yourself become angry over.