I don't understand...

[Keres]

I had tanks do that as I was healing on my WHM, not so hard to fluid aura, sleep, save swiftcast for stoneskin, clutch heal/cc, or last hit damage and get it done with, use regen and small heals. If worse comes to worse I'd just kite tank the other adds while dpsing and healing.

Instead of sitting there doing nothing but whine hoping for the issue to magically resolve itself. God forbid the existence of ingenuity and situational awareness.

The expectations people have now compared to when MMO's first started is pretty hilarious. Duty Finder is not Major League Gaming and portions of the community take it to the comic book guy extremes by going to town on someone because they can't do what you believe should be standard which is elitist no matter how you want to spin it.

Tanking poorly and letting your team members die (or having them be forced to pick up your slack) is frustrating when you're the tank. I get mad at myself whenever I mess up tanking and someone else dies because of it, or worse, the whole group wipes. For all you know, that tank wishes they could be doing better when they see monsters going off and attacking the healer; it's entirely possible that they simply don't know why and are too shy to ask for help due to fear of someone yelling at them. I've seen it happen before, heck, I've even been there a few times in various games.

Politeness and humbleness is something that should go both ways, and it's entirely possible to give friendly advice without coming across as a jerk. The fact that you don't seem to believe it's possible is a little confusing, honestly.

Not just a few days ago, I politely told a co-tank in Garuda (as close to exact wording as I can recall) "hey, in case you didn't know about it, you can step through her to avoid the Slipstreams. It can save a lot of damage. " and he was grateful for the information. In fact, if someone gets offended and cries elitism at that particular line of text, I'm going to state that they're being unreasonable. I can understand not accepting abusive or rude behavior, but it is entirely possible to give friendly/helpful advice, framed in a nonthreatening way. This is not a black-and-white issue.

It seems like you've just set up this straw-man version of an "elitist player" for yourself, and whenever anyone in this thread responds to you, you respond to your strawman rather than the (seemingly reasonable) people who are actually trying to share their point of view. If you're interested in fostering a constructive discussion, this isn't the best way to go about it.

[Gormogon]

Politeness and humbleness is something that should go both ways, and it's entirely possible to give friendly advice without coming across as a jerk. The fact that you don't seem to believe it's possible is a little confusing, honestly.

"Can" go both ways. The fact that you and others jump to that assumptions simply because I ain't raising my pitchfork and torch is of no surprise to me.

In page 3 I said, "depending on the person can either lead to him hearing you out or taking it as a personal insult".

[Kerberon]

"Can" go both ways. The fact that you and others jump to that assumptions simply because I ain't raising my pitchfork and torch is of no surprise to me.

In page 3 I said, "depending on the person can either lead to him hearing you out or taking it as a personal insult".

And if they take it as an insult, they're in the wrong, and better off in single player titles. They're too sensitive to participate as adults in a recreational activity that involves other people. Maybe they're depressed, maybe they had a bad day, maybe who knows. But they are 100% in the wrong in that case and should not be in a group.

[Gormogon]

And if they take it as an insult, they're in the wrong.

So how many times has that methodology been working again? Since if it was threads like these wouldn't exists.

[Kerberon]

So how many times has that methodology been working again? Since if it was threads like these wouldn't exists.

Trolls exist.

[Tiggy]

Trolls exist.

Yup. Yet he never uses his words in a consistent manner to convey his real meaning, and the moment you produce a decent counter point he immediately turns to saying its us not understanding him and twisting his words.

Please don't feed the trolls.

[Gormogon]

Trolls exist.

Yet you go an party with them by choice. Way to troll yourself.

Bad pulls=pulling more than you can handle. Which can happen when the tank isn't aware of patrol mobs. Anyway, if the tank is utterly hopeless and won't listen your options are kick or abandon, yes. I'm not going to spend an hour on something that should take half that time because somebody doesn't want to learn thier role. If they're receptive I'll stick around. Otherwise? I can be doing something else.

That's usually how it is. Sadly the people here want to force some brick wall to suddenly sprout apples.

[Foo01]

... Sadly the people here want to force some brick wall to suddenly sprout apples.

This is so true. And they say it like it is just one or two more buttons. If were that easy, it would have already been done. Habits, routine, momemtum, knowledge (of/lack of) and whole slew of human factors is why they don't.

The bottom line is for people like the OP and threads like this: "why can't I find more players who play better like me?"

The answer is if they were better than you they don't want to play with you, the definition of the elitist ethos.

So what are you left with? Other players who can not be demanded to be so hardcore. So relax, get along, play for fun, not optimizing that last 0.x % of DPS.

[Keres]

"Can" go both ways. The fact that you and others jump to that assumptions simply because I ain't raising my pitchfork and torch is of no surprise to me.

In page 3 I said, "depending on the person can either lead to him hearing you out or taking it as a personal insult".

I'm saddened, but not particularly surprised, that this is all that you chose to acknowledge out of my post. Have a nice day.