Being Gendered Correctly

[CYoung187]

Guess we should just stop talking in dungeons. Never know who you will offend. Maybe they need to have a 5 minute window before you can start each dungeon so we can read everyones profiles and know what may or may not offend them.

Or people can just stop taking things said by strangers over the internet so seriously. If someone calls you the wrong gender, correct them and it will likely be the end of it. Don't instead get offended by a simple mistake.

Edit: I know I sound like a completely unsensitive prick, but I can only imagine how bad it gets taken when people in the game really act like jerks. I have seen some pretty toxic people in games. There are people that are genuinely trying to insult you, so I hope the more sensitive individuals aren't taking those jerks words to heart as well. This is the internet and everything directed towards you shouldn't be taken too seriously or you make yourself vulnerable.

[infinitezero]

Getting this ass-backwards society to finally treat women and men as equals and not cater to men by default bad.

Didn't see this before, and though I feel it is way off topic to do so, I feel the need to respond to it anyways.

There will never be gender equality as long as:
1. Men are expected to be the only ones that ever have to touch a toilet seat.
2. Women expect to be able to hit men and get away with it.
3. Women want chivalry to be a thing.
4. Women go out to bars and clubs expecting free drinks from men.

I'm sure there are others, but this is just a few off the top of my head. Maybe talk to some of your fellow women about why the genders are not equal yet in 2014.

EDIT: Sorry about the "fellow women" part if this quote did not come from a woman. I didn't take the time to figure out who it originated from.

[Edellis]

These as examples of organizations "catering" to woman to make money off of them. How is this a positive thing?

It's not "catering", its "marketing." There is a subtle difference.

By this logic, McDonalds is catering to humans and is wrong for persuading them to eat food. Health dismissed of course.

Didn't see this before, and though I feel it is way off topic to do so, I feel the need to respond to it anyways.

There will never be gender equality as long as:
1. Men are expected to be the only ones that ever have to touch a toilet seat.
2. Women expect to be able to hit men and get away with it.
3. Women want chivalry to be a thing.

I'm sure there are others, but this is just 3 off the top of my head.

This has little to do with gender equality and more to do with social norms.

Women are not expected to hit men and get away with it. I guess nobody told you, but the court doesn't work that way. Certian woman foolishly believe they can hit men and get away with it. Which leads to lots of hilarious videos of them getting critical'd on the internet.


Chivalry isn't a bad thing...if it's deserved. Women who want unconditional chivalry are indeed delusional though.

[SchalaZeal]

Maybe its a maturity thing as I have noticed younger mtf women are more prone to taking offense than older women.

It's mostly about how long since they socially transitioned. It's been 8 years here, and even in real life, I'm way less susceptible.

It's just plain self-confidence, due to lived experience. Of course you need to be gendered correctly by the right people (family, friends, romantic interests), but eventually, what everyone else might think matters much less.

These as examples of organizations "catering" to woman to make money off of them. How is this a positive thing?

Having options is a good thing, regardless of other people making profit off them.

If you have clothing option #1, #2, #3, #4, #5, #6 and #7 for the same activity/weather, and I only have #1 and #2, this might mean you spending more on your options, but it means I have way less of them. In this instance YOU have an advantage.

And don't feel like you HAVE to own all 7 outfits. OCDness is not the responsibility of society.

And yes, its a female privilege (that I now have, too), to be able to wear more different types, colors, fabrics, lengths, cuts, of clothing. My wardrobe is huge and I'm on a budget - and spend very little on clothing. I still have HUGE choice compared to my boyfriend restricted to just a few, and barred from many (unless he's after a beating or open discrimination).

ETA: and DON'T say this means society hates women!
If it hated women, it would beat women who wear dresses and skirt even more than it does men.

[starswept]

I could shoot the same comment at you for failing to have a shred of basic social interaction with strangers who wish to be identified by their chosen pronoun.

I wonder, how exactly is someone supposed to know a stranger's chosen pronoun to be identified by? And I'm talking about people who have just met and haven't exchanged any pronoun clarification communication.
I could assume that since its a female char, it wants to be called "she" and I could be wrong since not all players who play an opposite gender role play or what have you. Either way, the assumption has a 50/50 chance of being wrong and isn't meant to purposely be insulting.

[Zumi]

You picked a Lalafell which are so small short don't really have too many distinguishable features that let you differentiate male from female only the hair and even at that point its hard to tell. Most of the time I can't tell if a Lalafell is male or female.

[JemC]

Well if it's a very very very serious issue we do have two name slots. You might just name yourself Miss Sue or Lady Jenni? You know putting an effeminate title in the first name. Also, the game allows for us to abbreviate people's names. I don't know if anyone does this but just saying they might not even see your full name if they have abbreviations on.

[infinitezero]

Women are not expected to hit men and get away with it. I guess nobody told you, but the court doesn't work that way. Certian woman foolishly believe they can hit men and get away with it. Which leads to lots of hilarious videos of them getting critical'd on the internet.

As well as some not so hilarious videos of 50 men jumping on one guy for hitting a woman that clearly deserved it (guess that's the mens fault though). But what I was really hoping for were your thoughts on the toilet seat situation. ^_^

[MercuryAcetylene]

As well as some not so hilarious videos of 50 men jumping on one guy for hitting a woman that clearly deserved it (guess that's the mens fault though). But what I was really hoping for were your thoughts on the toilet seat situation. ^_^

we're all using the toilet wrong anyway... we're supposed to take our pants off completely and sit facing the side with the tank. its like a little table you can sit your quills and ink on so you can write letters on your thinking chair. =)

[Orophin]

I tend to use "they" if I'm referring to a stranger, but in my own mind I just assume everyone is a guy unless I can hear them on voice chat, because let's face it, the majority of gamers are guys.