I much prefer how FFXIV is set up over the super slow progression from FFXI, personally. It's not because I want things handed to me, but because I don't want the game to be a chore, which is what XI felt like to me. After a while I only played to RP with friends, and when they stopped playing I did as well. I find FFXIV a lot more fun to play, and that's even when my friends aren't online.