I have 0 friends on my friendlist. Is it my fault? No.

[Hycinthus]

Not entirely. But is it the game's fault? Not entirely either.

It is both my and the game's fault. Here is why:

I am not a person who can make friends easily, and the game is not conducive to making friends.

But I had a lot of friends in FFXI. Why? Because the game provided the means to make friends even for those who are not quite social. Let me explain why (And I am NOT saying FFXIV ARR needs to put in these contents):

1) Content that forced me to find help:
For example Kazham keys to get access to airship. So the first thing I did was, /sea 50-75. And boom got someone to help me, thank you sir, can we be friends, yes. And then that person continues to be my friend. Now in ARR, I have not required anyone's help at all.

2) Open world obstacles:
During open world party, suddenly we get in trouble, someone trained mobs, and we need help. And boom, we can just shout and someone appears, and thank you mam, can we be friends, yes.

3) Non-existent duty finder:
I do enjoy duty finder, but again, with duty finder you don't expect to meet them again, so you can go through the whole dungeon without saying anything.


I am not saying that FFXIV ARR has to put in these contents. But that in FFXI there were supportive environment for me to make friends.

But there are things that are also MY fault:
1) I also don't say anything in duty finder party. Because no one says anything either. But I could break that chain and say something, but I didn't. So that is my fault.

2) I have grown up since FFXI days in 2002. I know all the mechanics of a typical MMO, so I don't appreciate too much anymore when people casts Protect on me, or Raise me. Back then, I /befriended them.

I am not complaining. Don't tell me to go back to FFXI or WoW. Some of these mechanics I do accept is how it is these days. I cannot live without the duty finder as well. But with all of these new mechanics and easy content (at least pre-50), it makes it difficult for me to make friends pre-50. In FFXI, I had made friends even before endgame.

Imagine real life that you are a very social being, but you want to have a girlfriend but you are put in a town of elderly demographics, with no bars/clubs, nothing to do nothing to go to. The environment really makes a big difference to how successful you can be.

So what can FFXIV ARR do to help me make friends? You can discuss below but also Tune in later I will update since I have to go now.