as an addtional hint: when you join a dungeon you haven't done before, say so in the party chat. and i would also mention that you are new to the game and to the mmo genre in general. i bet this will improve peoples reactions considerably. there might be some idiots out there who might leave if you say that, but that should be a vast minority. if they know upfront you are not familiar with the game/genre they will explain more stuff to you and they will be more forgiving if you make mistakes. if you don't say anything people will assume, you know what you are doing.


just a little anecdote from yesterday: the ifrit fight in hard mode. there is one point where 4 "nails" spawn, you have to kill these within a set amount of time or ifrit will make an attack that kills most people/everyone. without using limit break, a normal party will not be able to kill them all. the best way is to have a caster use his limit break, it brings down all the nails to about 10% health. if not caster is around, a melee can kill the first with limit break and damage the 4th with limit break. if you have 4 bards, you are screwed. this is a mechanic that is known to everyone who has done the fight a few times or has read a guide about it. but the only caster in our party just didn't use the limit break, although people wrote so in the chat when they noticed he wasn't using it. of course we wiped and people were mad at him, because he didn't do his job.

it turned out it was only his second time doing this fight and he didn't know he had to use the limit break (and probably was too occupied to read the chat). if he had just told everyone upfront that he doesn't know the fight very well, people would have explained him what he has to do and the drama (and the wipe) could have been avoided.

btw: ifrit died in the second attempt.