Don't you people have fun?

[Noshpan]

Fun : noun : 1. enjoyment, amusement, or lighthearted pleasure.

I'm a "casual" that's been playing as a tank class since v1 beta. I had a few jobs to 50 but decided to start a new character when ARR was released; I rolled a WAR as I loved tanking in FFXI and in XIV v1.

Now I read and have always read the forums religiously since they were opened and at this point.. at level 48 I'm afraid to progress in this game.
I hear nothing but horror stories of unruly elitism. I get stressed out and anxious about opening the DF window. I actually shake a little in anticipation of being abused and "yelled" at if I'm starting a dungeon that I've never ran before. This isn't even End Game.. I fear even trying Aurum Vale.

I've started a new job; Monk in hopes that with less responsibility in the party the less chance I'll be yelled at. I already miss being the one to take all the damage though.

So is this game fun? I bet it could be if people would let it.

As a DD, whenever I have to step into the DF without someone in my FC or LS, I start to feel as you do. I start to feel the anxiety rise. My get to feeling tense, my stomach and intestines go into knots, I start to feel sick. Why? Because I dread encountering a group where I'm going to get berated for not performing perfectly on the first try. So far most of my groups have been decent but I have had a few groups that were unexpectedly terrible.
My first run in Titan story mode, my first time through Stone Vigil, my first time in Garuda normal mode all resulted in name-calling (usually by the tank that was responsible for the wiping in the first place). My latest experience has soured me a bit that I haven't stepped back into DF. I was falsely accused of using LB before phase 2 and for not getting behind the rocks (though I did, just not the correct side of the rocks at times ;_. I don't want to go back and finish Garuda normal mode.