Easy solution to the people "waiting for in-progress" bottleneck.

[Steeled]

Easier solution : play a tank or healer.

You experience long wait times because you choose to play a class that there is an over abundance of, while ignoring the roles there are a shortage of. Play a healer or tank, and this improves the situation for yourself, and decreases wait times for other DPS as well.

I do, my 50s are SCH, WHM, PLD, and WAR.

Tanks encounter it a little bit, healers encounter it more frequently because the tank queue is instant and the healer queue isn't usually slow.

It's not a difficult thing to observe other perspectives on an issue.

The people that want to "cancel farm" for queues will just get out of your way if they had separate checkboxes. It doesn't make populations any better or worse, simply that when the queue pops, if noone is AFK, most people are likely to accept. Rather than getting paired with the same person a dozen times only to have them cancel a dozen times.