As of right now, vanity slots are coming in 2.2, though some are working to try to change that with a petition. There's also a barber shop coming in 2.1 which will allow you to change things like hair and tattoos/makeup.

Housing is coming in 2.1 but only for FCs at first. There's other content and fixes coming too; pvp, new fates, quests, and dungeons. But if total customization is your main concern, this is probably not the game for you. They are more concerned with proving more content right now.

Here's a list of updates coming soon: http://www.reddit.com/r/ffxiv/commen...hanges_for_21/