7 Reasons You Should Be Nicer to Tanks (And People in General)

[IveraIvalice]

As a healer I find that it's usually the tank that's rude to everyone else and I feel like its because the only people (or a lot of them) are more of the hardcore type, the type that knows what they're doing, they are going for the best gear and want everyone to be on their level, and if they aren't the they can just go to another run in 2 minutes. And most times they don't take criticism well at all. Like when a tank pulls the full boss in AK, there are a bunch of ways I've seen it done and some of them are just not good and even saying so they get all defensive and tell tell me that that's how it's done. This is just from my experience with random tanks(DF) but some tanks are nice and I try to be helpful for them. But most times i just tell them when they're doing something that makes my job harder such as tanking in a wrong spot or not grabbing adds.
This is how I see them because the ones who are mean awe always the ones with full DL and or relic and trying to speed through things when we has some new DDs or something, and they never talk until something goes wrong

[LadyZola]

Thanks for this post. As a tank, I have received a lot of criticism (while some was actually constructive, most was basically insults and bad words).

[Adaline]

Interesting, because as a tank I've found the general group of people that are rudest to me are healers.

Funny how that works, isn't it? ^_^

as a tank, you don't generally interact with other tanks in a 4man dungeon, outside of primal battles where either it's 3 shot or it's not happening.

as a healer, they don't generally interact with other healers...

See how that works?

as a dps...you get tanks yelling at you for sleep pulling,
yelling at you for pulling agro on boss when it's at 30%...
yelling at healers when THEY are the ones that break sleep...
can go on...
i have seen plenty nice tanks, also seen healers who don't heal DD, generally it's the tanks making threats "pull once more and i leave" ....i pull with sleepga after tank starts running up to the enemies...some tanks go out of their way to break sleep.
then wonder how the healer got agro when they don't know where their aoe emnity spells are...
on my SCH i've had my fairy tanking...without even forcing it to spam heals...

rude tanks are common, rude healers slightly less so,
and lazy DD who wouldn't be able damage their way out of sastasha at 50(if level sync didn't exist) are kind of common as well.

if one of the 3 is in a party it's tolerable...but get 2 or 3 of those types combined?

really it'snot as much of a tank said this or heals said that, or DD can't do enough damage...

it's bad players people...different types..different levels...but just bad.

a 50 legacy mage asking me for help on the level 45 class quest...because he keeps dying...turns out he didn't know astral ice restores mana...seriously? how'd he do the previous class quests????????

some people....i try to help them... but bad includes attitude

[Noahlimits]

.i pull with sleepga after tank starts running up to the enemies

Whoa, I think that's your problem. If it isn't established and okay with everyone in the party, you shouldn't be pulling with sleepga. Doing it AFTER the tank has pulled and established hate on everyone I can see, but pulling with it shouldn't be done unless the tank and everyone else is okay with it.

[Rainbow_Dash]

Am I the only one that has used the DF with very positive results?

Granted I don't use it as much a I did a month ago, but even now I still run WP 5 times a week or more if I want some extra tomes, the vast majority of the time soloqueing, sometimes duoqueueing with one DPS.

I think since release I've had...2 assholes? One I hesitate to even count, a healer in brayflox who was (I think) more annoyed with the lag he was getting on the last boss than anyone in particular (I can understand that bleeding into some rather acidic comments). The other was a typical 'DPS being a douche' in CM because the other tank hadn't been there before and askeed for some info on the strats (this was during the CM speedruns, post AK nerfs).

Other than that I've always had groups that were either nice and joking around for the duration, or just quiet and efficient.

[Dyrstahl]

but tanks have the biggest egos.

Maybe that's why we're tanks! We like being the cool dude that takes command and we get the feeling that we hold more responsibility than a mere DPS-peasant. We're people that like to feel important and want attention. Or well, at least I am.

The higher you fly the harder you fall ya know? We sit on our high horse feeling grand so when you make us look bad, we get very hurt.

[Ross313]

I loved this, thanks for the laugh.

[Ysarel]

Maybe you perceive being a healer as a pet class where everyone in your party is a mindless thug sent to slaughter your enemies

I may or may not have just fallen out of my chair laughing. It's a rare game/class where I find myself enjoying healer classes, but I need to level one now just for this.

[juniglee]

+1 from a tank main. I can see where the OP is coming from, although I haven't experienced any myself, since I usually receive glowing praise. I'm actually in my current FC now, because I ran DF Cutter's Cry from who knows back when with a member, and he was so impressed with me, he bugged his officers to invite me (brag brag brag lol).

I've recently re-rolled a DPS, and I've tried my best not to give up on any of the newer tanks I come across. Sure they are sometimes slow, and they irk me a little when they don't mark, but where possible, I teach them how to tank, since as a more experienced player, I should be imparting knowledge to the newer players. Helps as well that I rolled a BLM for my DPS class, so I can use Sleepga when things get ugly.

[Zakalwe]

This is a silly thread. When I'm not tanking, all I see in DF is cowards who are afraid to call out the tank because they waited in a queue and so they walk on eggshells and don't say anything while bad tank goes around being bad. If a tank sucks, does stuff like pull with sprint and provoke, doesn't mark and offers bad strats then the tank will be called out on it by yours truly.

Too many tanks act like divas because they get instant queues when most of them don't have the skills to back up their attitude.

Uh, sometimes pulling with Provoke is the right thing to do, as it has a much longer range than Shield Lob. A prime example is the Succubi in AK. But in general cases, yes Shield Lob is the correct tool as it is a threat builder whereas Provoke is a threat copy (and on the pull there should be no threat yet to actually copy).