How are you winding up dead in FATEs? Are you doing them solo as a tank and just expecting randome people to be able to click on you and drop a heal amid all that craziness? Are you even bothering to get into a FATE group? EVERY zone on my server has multiple groups going on for FATEs, it helps XP and generally, you'll get healed.

How the heck are you stuck grinding for two levels? Do you have a 50 and have done ALL of the side quests? Have you cleared your hunting log?

Sounds to me like your complaining just to complain.