I was in DF the other day... me (SCH), LNC, MNK and a Tank... we were having fun then reached the first boss, and we died. We try again and we die. By now tank is unhappy and barking orders and calling names and using profanity (why doesn't my profanity filter work? >.<). We go in and die again. Then we try one more time, but this time:

Tank goes in, we follow, get locked into fight, tank quits, leaving us to die.

(That is rather immature and pathetic behavior that would not occur if we lived on the same server, but he can easily do because he is essentially anonymous to us)

Ironically, we managed to get the boss down even further without him, then with him O.o!

For me, the problem is not the duty finder, the problem is not the lack of experience or good gear.. the real big problem is getting matched with people who behave so impolitely (and attempt to MPK us o.o).

These can be alleviated in the future I hope (I had suggestions on feature-adds to DF to make it better). But I do not know how we can really solve the underlying problem:

Why are people being immature, mean, shouty, insulting, and offensive in a video game with no material rewards that exists for pure personal enjoyment?