I had a guild member who did a similar error by killing mobs in a fate "out of turn" and also getting blacklisted. As far as I understand, there was some kind of queue for the FATE... I'm not sure if anyone can shed some light on the specific fate involved for that one.

It makes sense to play nice with others, but I sometimes wonder if other players should actively shout out instructions for fates like those. Just write a macro with the instructions for new players and the like. An alternative to avoid spam is to just shout out for instructions to specific fates when you enter a new area and avoid treading on toes. If they still blist you after not explaining it, it's not for lack of trying on your part. It's not ideal for the community to blist someone for not following unspoken rules. It seems along the same lines as leaving a dungeon group because one party member has never run it before.

On the plus side, you're probably better not partying with the players like that anyway.