Gear level, the final nail in the games coffin.

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, but I'd liked how in XI, in those end-game raids and the like, people didn't complain about your gear. They just had fun doign it, win or lose.

I'd like to know which XI you played. FFXI was one of the most min/maxed, theorycrafted games imaginable. There was an entire thread on BG dedicated to screenshots gimp players, like level 75's in Venerer's rings and NQ Amemet mantle. Later on, you couldn't even get into endgame shells without multiple level 75 characters and Dynamis Xarc clear with the gear to support it.

Get a FC and gear up with your friends that are doing the same.

players dont seem to understand that there is more to an MMO than just silly shiny farming for "loots brah"

There is a lot more than just loot, but without a gear check, what is preventing people from trying to run dungeons naked? No amount of skill will help in that situation and it would just be a waste of everyone's time. Computers can't check for something as subjective as skill, so instead we get, "if you have cleared X content enough times to get Y gear, you SHOULD be able to do Z dungeon successfully". That's about all you are going get from a computer program. The people wanting a certain gearscore are just too lazy to subjectively evaluate people's skill, so they are using the computers objective way to do it.