Did i every said time is valuable? i play at least 50-60 hours a week. If not i would not have t he stuff i have now on my account. I'm saying it's a new game the time of wasting 40+min to kill one thing is over. Most people now at days even if they play as much as i do want to go get stuff done and move on to something else. But sadly the value and accomplishment of said items is lower in this type of game vs FFXI. I think that one of the things i would always miss about how FFXI was back in the days. If you read my post i never put myself in with the players that dislike hunting a mob for hours if i did then that not what i meant to say.
I remember doing the Uggalepih Pendant NM for 10+hours with a linkshell. Remember doing Optical Hat and many other NM in FFXI. The thing i was trying to say is that we have to move with the time. MMO may never get back to how it used to be so it better to get into the new generation. It took me forever to get use too how ffxiv how become and how casual it can be still not use to it.
But like i said you never know yoshi-p is good at making a lot of players happy. He said he want to bring everyone in so i'm sure he would add something to make everyone happy. If not there always FFXI to go back too and enjoy that type of gameplay. Even tho that game become very casual vs how it used to be.
About the gear sorry i just remember people telling me in wow. To enter said dungeon you need this gearscore or it wont let you. So people would enter with other type of gear just to meet the requirement. Ya i guess they be a point where people would want only people with the right gearscore. But with dungeon finder you could always try a pug party

I guess there really no way out of that. Best we can do is find a good FC to be and get good gear.