I gotta get this out of my system or imma lose my mind

[Carighan]

Intentionally allowing MPK because the tank doesn't want to do their job

MPK? What is that?

Also you might have misunderstood my post, I meant that I kick them if they are both belligerent and try to grief the party. Which has, sadly (given FFXIV's usual reputation), become a significant issue since Dawntrail. Marked shift in attitude from many dungeon runners, newcomers who ask to do smaller pulls get yelled at and laughed and if you try to tell the offending person to calm it, they just fly completely off the rails. And if they're already doing physical griefing like tagging mobs then not (which is intentional after all) bringing them to where the tank collected all the other 10 mobs, then honestly... it's time for them to calm down outside the dungeon maybe? I mean at that point what do you want to do? If you accept that behavior, it just proliferates, and you got one less newbie healer because they play something else instead.

(Though the same holds true when you're the healer and the tank is not confident in doing wall-to-wall or large mass pulls, of course)

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Ah I found what MPK means, yeah that's what I mean, if someone tries to grief the group by bringing in extra mobs even after explanation, it's time for them to step outside the dungeon maybe? Like I said above I can easily survive that so I don't mind if they kill themselves bringing those mobs, but in particular with a sprout healer who asks for careful pulls it's just super not okay to then fly off the rails and just bring more and more mobs to the tank. Again I can survive that, but it's not the point, if the healer asked and nobody said something against it and hence silently agreed with them, DBAA later.