RP shout ads are obstructive to chat and gameplay

[Merrigan]

I'm new to the game and I don't want to offend anyone, but as a long time rp gamer myself (maybe too old now at this point) I will never understand the connection between rp and sexual things in some games. When I was young, at 14 yo I could play d&d safely for example, it was something challenging and stimulating... like understand how to interpretate like an act course and above all to think of strategy based on the situation and so on... now it's like rp it's synonymous of erp. Of course adults can do whatever they want and with their adults group they can rp every aspect of life, you can also only doing cooking dishes role playing, I'm just sorry that theese adults don't understand that if they do a certain type of rp, they shouldn't think that because in the context/game they are in their rp is the majority of rp then everything is allowed...and they should be more careful approaching others.
With that said, I agree with the rp chat

I second the first part of the message. In my experience, the RP community is very skittish about ERP enthusiasts. There are two reasons for this: it sometimes gives a strange image to the community as a whole, when the majority don't want to do ERP but rather go out and slap dragons; and because it seems that many ERP enthusiasts aren't at all interested in RP as such, but only in the sexual aspect of the thing.

[Aurissia]

I second the first part of the message. In my experience, the RP community is very skittish about ERP enthusiasts. There are two reasons for this: it sometimes gives a strange image to the community as a whole, when the majority don't want to do ERP but rather go out and slap dragons; and because it seems that many ERP enthusiasts aren't at all interested in RP as such, but only in the sexual aspect of the thing.

Thanks for sharing your experience, since I'm new and my view can be superficial, it's good to have a broader view from the other players who know better and in this case it's actually relieving for me to know that, ty again.

[Padudu]

then why does it say 18+ again mental gymnastics

Ever consider that people just don't want to interact with minors in any capacity lol. I don't either. Why do you think so many people have "21+ only no minors". It's because even in SFW RP they don't want to interact with minors you weirdo. Stop twisting it to be like it's always erp lmao. Adults trying to avoid unnecessary interactions with minors should be a GOOD thing.

[strawberrycake]

Ever consider that people just don't want to interact with minors in any capacity lol. I don't either. Why do you think so many people have "21+ only no minors". It's because even in SFW RP they don't want to interact with minors you weirdo. Stop twisting it to be like it's always erp lmao. Adults trying to avoid unnecessary interactions with minors should be a GOOD thing.

Yeah, a lot of these people would be surprised at the amount of people who want paces that exclude children since they know children play the game and don't wanna be near them.

[Velthice]

I solved this issue years ago by making two chat tabs. One for regular chat and one that's an exact duplicate of regular chat, but has shout/yell disabled. Going to limsa? Time to switch chat tabs! Problem solved

[Ravenblade1979]

Ever consider that people just don't want to interact with minors in any capacity lol. I don't either. Why do you think so many people have "21+ only no minors". It's because even in SFW RP they don't want to interact with minors you weirdo. Stop twisting it to be like it's always erp lmao. Adults trying to avoid unnecessary interactions with minors should be a GOOD thing.

Highly agree. It's why the venue community will blacklist anyone who is found out to be underage. Also we know there are pedos in the community though. So gotta be vigilant as a parent to make sure ya kid safe.

Partial responsibility is on the parent. This is where I think it fails. Alot of parents don't care enough. I've seen a fc where parents and kids play and I say this now. The kids don't seem to be in any situation because they are monitored or the parents are well known so others will approach if a issue happens.

[PyurBlue]

I solved this issue years ago by making two chat tabs. One for regular chat and one that's an exact duplicate of regular chat, but has shout/yell disabled. Going to limsa? Time to switch chat tabs! Problem solved

While this is good advice, we don't exactly have a lot of tabs to work with.

[Bonoki]

Ever consider that people just don't want to interact with minors in any capacity lol. I don't either. Why do you think so many people have "21+ only no minors". It's because even in SFW RP they don't want to interact with minors you weirdo. Stop twisting it to be like it's always erp lmao. Adults trying to avoid unnecessary interactions with minors should be a GOOD thing.

We have created a social construct where people think that if they interact with a minor in any capacity it could mistakenly get them accused of being a pedo or groomer by their peers so it's better to play it safe than sorry and cut them out completely.
In terms of RP, it's also to keep the doors of adult content open without having to worry. Maybe the majority of your RP is SFW but if adult themes come up cohesively, you don't want it to feel awkward.
And then if you want to take your friendship further and hang out outside of RP, you don't want to feel gated by the fact your friend is underaged. It makes sense really but sometimes I feel bad for minors. This game is so heavily 18+ in every possible way that being a minor on this game at all is probably really depressing from their pov. We have created an environment where most minors probably do lie about their age because of this. I mean this in the most realistic way possible. Like, think about it. If they are caught lying, they get blocked. If they are upfront and honest. also blocked. So yeah I do believe most take the road of lying.

[Kuroka]

Yeah it sucks, im playing Pokemon go and im legit scared to even look for other players lol
-Thats about the same in a nutshell...

And lets face it, most of us never cared about 18+ in younger age... lied themself...

I just dont care online, unless its really certain stuff lol

[Merrigan]

Ever consider that people just don't want to interact with minors in any capacity lol. I don't either. Why do you think so many people have "21+ only no minors". It's because even in SFW RP they don't want to interact with minors you weirdo. Stop twisting it to be like it's always erp lmao. Adults trying to avoid unnecessary interactions with minors should be a GOOD thing.

ERP aside, why would that be a good thing? I can totally understand not wanting to play with 14-year-olds over a certain age (too much difference), but in this case it's not the "minor" that's the problem, but the age group. There's not much difference between a 21-year-old and an 18-year-old (to tell the truth, the arbitrary limit makes me laugh a little: in my country, 18 is the age of majority). It's an ostracization without any real meaning, other than the desire to protect oneself against certain accusations.

But no, I don't find it at all unhealthy to integrate a younger player into an RP group as long as it's healthy. If the age difference, and therefore the mentality that goes with it, doesn't pose a problem for those involved, it can, on the contrary, provide a framework that is beneficial. Precisely because the adult is aware of the limits to be adopted, and that these will sometimes be crossed less than in a group of teenagers who tend to test the limits of what is acceptable. I'll take just one example from WOW: in my guild at the time, there was a very young 15-year-old player. A typical teenager, a little nervous, in crisis, and very aggressive. Personally, I avoid this type of player in general (I don't have the patience for it), but our guild leader kindly set limits for him, and from what I've seen, this helped turn him into a more respectful player.