For the love of god, add a priority system.

[Stormpeaks]

The issue is that in many other games housing isn't mirroring real-life scarcity. I'd rather everyone have an instanced house if they want it, instead of only a few get the lot size and location they want, and everyone else simply must settle.

TBH, unless they just create wards of Large Houses, the issue will never be solved under the current system. If anything I'd give up my neighborhood plot today if I could get a Large instanced plot.

No thanks, use apartments, they are instanced housing.