I hate raiding, I hate free companies

[Crustyman]

Third and final part

I just can't help but feel like I'm gonna left in the dirt, or mess up again to were they don't want me around anymore. I know that "taking a break" from talking to them is not a bad idea, but it's not xiv that's the problem, I can take a break from that anytime, I just can't help but feel like I need to constantly send messages (at least a couple every day) just so we don't grow distant and not talk. I'm just not sure what to do anymore. I'm done trying to find FCs, I've tried them for the past 3ish years and they've almost always ended in just another person on my friend list.

I almost forgot to say, I hate raiding, and I highly dislike raiders (I don't hate them, I just don't like what they do). Firstly, I know its your life, and you CAN do whatever you want. But every time I've met a raider, everything they do centers around raiding. "Hey wanna come do roulettes with me?" "Sorry, I gotta prepare for my 89127PGHS peanut butter UWu that's gonna last from 7pm to 3am, oh I'm also doing this every day this weekend, so I won't respond at all". It just feels like such a slap on the face to just be left in the dust and become distant from one my good friends. I could image someone would suggest trying raiding, which isn't a bad idea, but all my patience for raiding and hardcore content was exhausted in d2, I don't wanna go down that rabbit hole ever again. I just wanna have fun with my friends again, what gives them the right to just leave me behind, never send me a message, not even a hi, and act like nothing happened. Did I do something wrong? But I'll never hear an answer, because they're never online, only raiding and gearing.

If anyone is just starting xiv, if you're gonna take anything away from this post, just know that if you wanna raid, just join a raiding FC. If you wanna join a casual FC, just join a massive one, where there's always at least one person online for you to do things with.

Sorry if there's any grammatical mistakes or anything like that, I just wanted to get this all off my chest, I just don't really know what to do anymore.

[Eastwall]

Looks like you are just afraid to be alone in the dark, which is natural. I do hope you find a group that sticks. For me, a random recruited me into a guild, then they all stopped playing, but the original guild leader made me leader before he quit. Now l enjoy owning a cottage and submarine and a guild chest all to myself. It is great, and a cute lalafell and reworked pvp is enough for me.

[TaleraRistain]

what gives them the right to just leave me behind, never send me a message, not even a hi, and act like nothing happened..

Because it's their life and their game time and they can choose what they do with it? It's up to you to decide if your relationship fits what you consider friendship. But keep in mind everyone has their own idea of what friendship is. You have to either find those who share you viewpoint or find a group where you're all willing to compromise to stay friends.

I also feel like we're not getting the full story here. You mentioned that you left and joined your third FC and FC's discord multiple times. Don't you think that gave them the impression that you didn't really care to be there? I'm not going to lie. You sound kind of demanding and seem to think someone who calls you friend owes you all their time. But people don't work like that.

[Crustyman]

Don't you think that gave them the impression that you didn't really care to be there? I'm not going to lie. You sound kind of demanding and seem to think someone who calls you friend owes you all their time. But people don't work like that.

Yeah, I most likely gave them that impression. It was when a lot of the group went completely silent ign and in the discord. Though when they all came back to the game I wanted to rejoin them. Also one of the previous times I left was for a really stupid reason, the discord had an ARK survival server and I accidentally killed one of my friends new tames.

If you (or anyone) plays ark, what happened was, my friend had just tamed a griffin and I thought it would be a funny idea to use a lighting wyvern's breath attack to scare them. I thought that friendly fire was off, it was not. After that I left the fc and discord because I felt like they were gonna be pissed at me, though me and the friend ended up working things out.

In terms of sounding demanding I've kept these thoughts to myself for the longest time, I just wanted to share how I really felt. I wouldn't say what I said in the third part to any of them.