There should be no such thing as "a good RP server", all servers are equal. This is why Crystal is congested. Stop trying to make characters there and make them on Dynamis, and use DC travel to play on any other server you like.
Every server has players who RP. There is no pressing need to get "in" with the popular crowd of RPers on Crystal. There is no prestige to RPing on Crystal. You don't need to RP with popular streamers or influencers.