No imho it isn’t stupid. DPS meters undeniably create toxicity.
FF: If a group fails a DPS check, everyone will try harder, because it’s not possible to see who is struggling the most.
WoW: If a group fails a DPS check, the one who has the lowest DPS gets kicked immediately.
Which game of those two do you want to play? After 10 years of WoW where I was afraid to even try raiding, I’m glad I’m playing FF instead now. DPS meters are not necessary at all and the day FF allows them, will be the day I quit FF.
You can easily pinpoint a low-performing player even without a DPS meter. Experienced players can immediately tell who doesn’t know their rotation even without a DPS meter. There’s no need to reduce group effort to plain numbers like in WoW.