SE's inability to protect players from stalking/harassment

[PredatoryCatgirl]

Every gaming forum I've been on in the last 10-15 years has been awful, I wasn't expecting this to be much different even though the in-game community is fantastic.

I literally come here just to roast marshmallows over the dumpster fires. Its my version of staring at car wrecks.

Like in this thread, I was actually rooting for this person until I saw them bumping their thread repeatedly. Now I just blocked them. And yet ironically I still see the thread, so maybe SE does need to put in some better ways to not see people.

[AiUsagi]

Last time someone stalked me I just used a name change also a race change then made sure to blacklist them and not be in any of there link shells.

That would have worked if this player didn't have my lodestone page available. Unfortunately, if you name change the old name still stays attached to your lodestone page.

[Bobby66]

Because that's not cheap and will need the person to start over completely, which isn't easy no matter how long or short your playtime already is.

Point is as the person being harassed sometimes you have to make sacrifices due to the lack of help help from the authorities. It is unfortunate that such actions need to be taken but the unfortunate reality is sometimes the victim has to taken steps to avoid further harassment instead of simply crying for help.from others.

It is not fair but if a person is feeling distressed by such actions I would say their personal sanity is worth the extra cost in terms of time and money to gain a sense if peace at mind.

[AiUsagi]

Point is as the person being harassed sometimes you have to make sacrifices due to the lack of help help from the authorities. It is unfortunate that such actions need to be taken but the unfortunate reality is sometimes the victim has to taken steps to avoid further harassment instead of simply crying for help.from others.

It is not fair but if a person is feeling distressed by such actions I would say their personal sanity is worth the extra cost in terms of time and money to gain a sense if peace at mind.

All the more reason to advocate for players to have more privacy options. I agree 100% that it is the individual's responsibility to take care of themself, but I also don't think it's right that people are being forced to make these choices when it all could have been prevented with just a few adjustments to privacy features on behalf of Square Enix.

[Bobby66]

All the more reason to advocate for players to have more privacy options. I agree 100% that it is the individual's responsibility to take care of themself, but I also don't think it's right that people are being forced to make these choices when it all could have been prevented with just a few adjustments to privacy features on behalf of Square Enix.

I agree but i fall in the camp we advocate all we want but to me it mostly seems like blind hope which is generally useless imo.

[AiUsagi]

I agree but i fall in the camp we advocate all we want but to me it mostly seems like blind hope which is generally useless imo.

I don't have much faith in SE to fix their issues either, but at least I am trying. The only true failures occur when we never try at all- There is enough hope in that for me to give it a go.

[BunnyChain]

Still waiting for SE to remove my stalker from my FC lawn, despite their blatant harassment in their search info & messages they've written in my own message books & friends. GM's are useless.

If you're on PC there is a way to just make a player's character completely invisible. Something about a launcher or so a friend told me. ;P

On topic: The measures put in place right now or lack thereof are enabling harassment. No, you can't change my mind.

[Bobby66]

I don't have much faith in SE to fix their issues either, but at least I am trying. The only true failures occur when we never try at all- There is enough hope in that for me to give it a go.

You do you, seems like a wasted effort. Trying just for the sake of trying is not a good quality imo but yeah.

[AiUsagi]

You do you, seems like a wasted effort. Trying just for the sake of trying is not a good quality imo but yeah.

Trying for the sake of pushing changes, regardless of the results. At least I can say I tried & did everything on my end to encourage something positive from all of the harassment & I am just doing what SE encourages players to do- post feedback in forums.
They recently made changes to their harassment policies, so clearly they are trying, but literally in none of the ways that matter. The individual player needs more options for privacy, not "consequences" that still rely on GMs to do something.
All of my harassment could have been avoided if this player couldn't see my location 24/7. It would be really helpful if players could hide their location in player search and in lodestone, without needing a mod to do so. PS4 doesn't mod either, so there is that.

[Bobby66]

Trying for the sake of pushing changes, regardless of the results. At least I can say I tried & did everything on my end to encourage something positive from all of the harassment & I am just doing what SE encourages players to do- post feedback in forums.
They recently made changes to their harassment policies, so clearly they are trying, but literally in none of the ways that matter. The individual player needs more options for privacy, not "consequences" that still rely on GMs to do something.
All of my harassment could have been avoided if this player couldn't see my location 24/7. It would be really helpful if players could hide their location in player search and in lodestone, without needing a mod to do so. PS4 doesn't mod either, so there is that.

As mentioned do you. I personally find the action moot SE has had years to adjust their stance. I gave ya a few bumps fight the good fight.