If you want people to play how you want do 1 of 2 thing .
Talk to the tank and be nice. Start from a hi then say what you want but be willing to get his point.
2. Make a pre made party of people you know and go like this.
All I ever expect from SF is people to say hi and be at minimum gear.
But as tank if you going to not even care to say hi and on top try to rush me you see no big pulls from me.