Agreed, it just pains me because my past history of MMOs was never a problem with being a 1 trick. In Everquest my Shaman was an absolute monster, if I could slow it and it didn't DT, I could solo it. If I couldn't slow it, I still had a chance if it didn't just rampage me into the floor within a few seconds. FFXI? It took me a long long time to kill anything but again, if I could sleep it, I could kill it, and one beauty of being one of maybe 2 active high end non JP BRD mains on my server was that people weren't too inclined to MPK me to steal whatever I was killing

For WoW and Warhammer online, my Shaman and WP were both a pleasure to solo and grind PvE when needed.
Meanwhile in FFXIV, it's pretty much as you say. I'm hitting the point now where I'm clawing at the Dancer button the second I'm not in Extreme or Savage content for the sake of my will to continue playing.
It's a sad state of affairs IMHO.