Concepts from other MMOs that would be utterly anathema to FFXIV

[Sasarayu]

Uhh what? Confucism is a patriarchal ideology with a with particular emphasis on the importance of the family, none of which is in FFXIV. If anything, FFXIV flies in the face of that because being a woman means little in the game but it means everything under Confucism. In fact, there's little if any family order in FFXIV even in the story, the vast majority of characters are Bachelors or Bachelorette.

There's a lot more to Confucianism than the family. The idea of the benevolent ruler and mentorship as a bond of mutual respect between the ruler and his subjects for example. The most extreme Confucian societies in history established a caste system where knowledge was forbidden to the masses simply because it was considered an affront to the ruling class for the lower to seek knowledge independently. This is reflected clearly in the FFXIV community as well where you simply don't just study up and think you know something. Your right to an opinion stands in direct relation to your social status and if you breech this unwritten rule, the way many newer players do even though they've raided for 10 years in other holy trinity MMOs, you will certainly know it.

As for traditional female roles, how many women are there in FFXIV with the attitude "I can't fight, but I CAN make the best rice balls and Tatami and give my heart and soul to support our brave fighters at the front lines!" (SB went overboard on this) in sidequests? I lost count tbh but the Doma restoration event had at least three characters like this including the chef, the administrative girl and the elderly teacher.

Even Yotsuyu was portraited as a weak failure for not accepting with grace and dignity the role imposed on her. She was humiliated and destroyed and in everything embodied a tragic harlot frowned upon by a chaste and virtuous society.

Contrast this to Sylvanas, Jaina, Azshara, Moira or your average Mag'har Orc lady in WoW and it's difficult to consider FFXIV in favor of strong female roles.

Individuality if emphasized in this game, not frowned upon. Glamour is the endgame, none of which supports conformity. The game mechanics are not about "obeying", they emphasis situational awareness, not some chain of command or some social hierarchy. Your average duty doesn't even involved any words being exchanged most of the time.

When a mechanic forces you to stand on A or die your are forced to obey. This happens in FFXIV all the time, on all encounters. Sometimes for 10 minutes straight. I feel enslaved when doing PvE in FFXIV while in WoW I feel clever for finding little tricks and my own individual way of managing a mechanic. WoW has even made a thematic thing of the "obey or suffer" where Queen Azshara called out decrees and forced players to run around like mindless puppets obeying her every whim or face the consequences. In FFXIV this is not a gimmick for a certain raid boss but rather reality on almost every encounter. Obey, obey, obey.