Marriage Partner Hookup Megathread!

[Twilite]

are you still looking for a eternal bond partner?

I should have used "tried" for past tense. No I'm not looking anymore. 2 short marriages, 4 attempts, I think it's not for me.

[Paladinleeds]

I should have used "tried" for past tense. No I'm not looking anymore. 2 short marriages, 4 attempts, I think it's not for me.

I know what you mean, I haven't been through the ceremony yet. Daren't go through it either, not until my mate of like 5+ years comes to FFXIV. Since I know she can handle all the crap I deal with (and seemingly cause too).

[Twilite]

I know what you mean, I haven't been through the ceremony yet. Daren't go through it either, not until my mate of like 5+ years comes to FFXIV. Since I know she can handle all the crap I deal with (and seemingly cause too).

They all failed mostly because communication was poor. I don't have a 'mate' either. Talking with someone about anything and doing things together I guess is a fantasy. I focused too much on it. Communication is important though. Nothing will last without it.

[Paladinleeds]

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Yeah, my friend will be new, but I'm planning to run through the content with her and help her level up, I think she's gonna be levelling a DPS class though, so that means my AST is my next 60! I met her originally on World of Warcraft, she's become good friends with me, and has become friends with some of my other friends and is planning to come and study in the UK. I don't expect this ceremony to fall over. She's been through my meltdowns, she's been through my darkest times, and she's stuck by me through it all. She's a true friend through and through. That's what I want out of the ceremony. The amount of FC's I've been in (and almost left my current one due to my contentious and conflictive attitude), means I can't trust anyone through this thread. Just too risky for me.

[Malicewolf]

Server: Gilgamesh (though thinking of going to goblin)

Wooo, more goblin love needs to happen <3 There's not many of us here on the forums ._. (one of us! one of us!)

They all failed mostly because communication was poor. I don't have a 'mate' either. Talking with someone about anything and doing things together I guess is a fantasy. I focused too much on it. Communication is important though. Nothing will last without it.

Shame, but not everyone is looking for what constitutes a real life bond. They're looking for an ingame bond that they can severe whenever they feel like it. Basically, a no strings attached kind of deal. Not saying everyone is like this. But a majority are. I know that if I do an EB, I am not looking for that. Yes. It would be fantastic to have a good friend to play with whenever I'm online and to talk to (but then again, I already have an entire FC for that since most of us are rl friends), but I wouldn't expect them to devote the same level of commitment as a real life relationship.

Look for a friend first. Then look for more afterwards if things look up. Basically, same thing you should do in a real life relationship. Sometimes people hit it off immediately and everything works out just fine. Majority of the time, after a month, you realize, you've talked about all the things that were "new" and now it's time to determine; is this person actually interesting and keeps my attention, or do I now find them boring and unamusing...

[Plouxx]

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The amount of truth from this hurts. :x

Like you said - when you run out of things to say and sit there trying to force yourself to find something to talk about is... not really good.
If conversations flow freely then you found a good thing going for you! :>