I was young and foolish. I had to learn the hard way. Best advice I can give you is force your brain to assume all Mith'qote are men. Don't let your eyes fool you. It's a very awkward feeling; it makes you feel hot and bothered, and I mean that in a bad way. Your heart and body wants to think that the Mi'qote is a real life woman, but you must use your brain and wisdom to be mindful that "she" could be a man.

This is why I'm always an ugly character (well... Roegadyn aren't ugly, but the "girls" always run away from me out of fear), so I don't have to worry about this online romance stuff.