Being Gendered Correctly

[Rakashu]

Sorry dude, but I'm not going to bother to ask, as your gender or what ever you identify as, doesn't matter to me.

You say "By the way, I'm a girl" is obnoxious to you, how obnoxious do you think it would be for every one to go "HEY! WHAT GENDER ARE YOU?! WHAT DO YOU GOT IN YOUR PANTS?!". It's not the assumption that every one is a guy, it's just an attempt at being as neutral as possible. Do you think there are guys out there playing as female avatars that wouldn't be upset if they are constantly referred to as "she" as well? The English language has always used masculine pronouns as its defacto when referring to some one of an unknown gender; it's how the language works.

If you'd like to change that, well, good luck.

[Kaoru_Nagisa]

I just base gender on character gender. I've always done it in any game I've ever played, and for the most part no one corrects me even if I'm wrong. People I become friends with I just eventually learn their real gender and either have an "oh, cool" moment or a "WOW REALLY?" moment (it's quite funny when you were friends with someone you assumed was female for nearly a year and then you suddenly find out they're a guy).

I just assume that if someone takes offense to me gendering them based on their character, they'll kindly correct me. If they don't, I assume they don't care or aren't bothered enough by it. Most of the time I just let people think I'm a male since my characters are usually male, I don't really care all that much lmao.

[jars]

hm you want numbers? take for example lol, the most popular game in the world. riot does statistics on their player base. guess what? you got it! 90% male.

the whole 45% of gamers are women is, like I said, as dumb as saying 45% of tv viewers are women so why doesn't espn have more content for women? because most women don't watch espn even though they might watch tv

[o3o]

I get called a he all the time too. To be honest.....


I dont really care. Chances are they dont either.

[Tashigi]

I kind of get it, but to be honest? I don't play this game with that level of expectation. I just play for a good/fun time; though this is subjective I suppose.
The opposite is true for me. I am male and play a female character; get addressed as a "she" constantly. Very rarely called a "he"; typically only by those who are close enough to me to know.
Doesn't bother me at all.

Guess you and I just have different approaches to this.
Sucks it's not working out as you expect it. But my personal advise would be not to expect it. It might lessen the impact; though not fix the issue.

[Purrfectstorm]

Sorry dude, but I'm not going to bother to ask, as your gender or what ever you identify as, doesn't matter to me.

You say "By the way, I'm a girl" is obnoxious to you, how obnoxious do you think it would be for every one to go "HEY! WHAT GENDER ARE YOU?! WHAT DO YOU GOT IN YOUR PANTS?!". It's not the assumption that every one is a guy, it's just an attempt at being as neutral as possible. Do you think there are guys out there playing as female avatars that wouldn't be upset if they are constantly referred to as "she" as well? The English language has always used masculine pronouns as its defacto when referring to some one of an unknown gender; it's how the language works.

If you'd like to change that, well, good luck.

How did these pronouns become "de facto"? Who decides how language "works"? Language is an ever evolving thing. Perhaps masculine pronouns became the default at a time when women were being treated unequally and perhaps things still are not equal even now. Some authors however have taken different approaches: using he/she, or they, alternating gender pronouns (he in even numbered chapters, she in odd numbered chapters, for example). There's not one way to do language and it's certainly worth considering examining new was when the old ways are bothering some people.

[AmyNeudaiz]

I used to get bothered by this a lot honestly it still irks me a bit. But correcting people only makes them say how you're a dude anyway. I just stopped caring and let people find out I'm a girl through voice chat. Lol.

[Galliano]

Good luck changing the mentality of gaming culture via the XIV forums that's been engraved in peoples minds over the past 30-40 years.

If it's your friends calling you "he" then let them know the one time, if it's randomers in pt/df finder then who the hell cares? just ignore them and enjoy the game instead of fixating on a missing letter, in fact just pretend they didn't hit the S key.

[Macka]

hm you want numbers? take for example lol, the most popular game in the world. riot does statistics on their player base. guess what? you got it! 90% male.

the whole 45% of gamers are women is, like I said, as dumb as saying 45% of tv viewers are women so why doesn't espn have more content for women? because most women don't watch espn even though they might watch tv

What!! Every female I know watch espn wth you taljing about. Also you still not showing any proof of your nunbers. I would also like to add on my psn friendlist including 4 of my sisters are 21 out of 50 are females that play this game.

[Purrfectstorm]

hm you want numbers? take for example lol, the most popular game in the world. riot does statistics on their player base. guess what? you got it! 90% male.

the whole 45% of gamers are women is, like I said, as dumb as saying 45% of tv viewers are women so why doesn't espn have more content for women? because most women don't watch espn even though they might watch tv

Can we at least agree that a non-zero number of FFXIV players are women, some don't like being referred to as "he", and their feelings matter?