I remember getting married to my long time friend Senica on the Unicorn server in XI... Funny thing was she was/is married irl... Her husband played a female character so they couldn't get married at that time, even though she really wanted the dress. So i asked him if it was alright... Long story short. We got lucky on our first try at a date and had it in the Upper Jeuno Church. Surprisingly, people were very respectful. Anyways figured i'd share that. Now they both play FFXIV, it would be nice if they could get married this time around now that he plays a male character (of her making!).
Wedding Bells in Eorzea?
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10-25-2011, 12:27 AMRiastrad
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10-25-2011, 01:06 AMJackDanielsWhile your suggestion is hilarious.. it's also just silly lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by RolandDebreton
I now pronounce you man and OMG DIREMITE RUNNNNN -
10-25-2011, 01:16 AMzaviermhigo
I want a real wedding feature. I'm sorry some of you are men and can't understand why we'd want A REAL WEDDING with effort put in which men just can't do lol. We want a venue, we want a dress, and we want it to be magical irl right when we have a wedding? well for me i'm ok with my family not getting to drunk, and the venue being outside and thats about it. But for some women its all glamor and glitz, for us lorehounds and women in general, its also nice to take a look into Eorzean culture and see how things are done. One type of ceremony for all three would be a nono, there should be minor differences. Its just like the whole world doesn't get married to the same crappy march music we pick.
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10-25-2011, 02:29 AMFensfieldNot as silly as you'd think.Quote:
Originally Posted by JackDaniels
'First in-game wedding I played out, we did it more or less as Roland suggested. 'Couple of generic in-game rings, get the guild leader to preside over a ceremony somewhere quiet (the old monastery in the far North-East), play out the ceremony itself..
The other one was just me and the friend 'played my character's wife confirming it in the system so RO'd give us the ring items and the teleportation ability they came with, though the service in Lutie was kinda cute.
Anyway! I think RolandDebreton has a very good idea, but I'd suggest a few alterations:- Yes, S-E should provide appropriate items. Dresses, Wedding Rings, Suits, etc.
- Rings should be acquired in pairs, which the system recognises as being bound to one another. These rings might have some minor special effects like maybe being able to let you teleport to your spouse or something.
- If two people simultaneously equip the rings, the game recognises them as married and maybe gives them an appropriate title.
- Private instances should be available for the ceremony. Either provided especially.. or just using a Free Company estate perhaps. This deals with problems like aggressive enemies or, more likely, trolls.
That being said, even with this system I'd be all-for region-specific outfits. Gridanian.. oh I don't know, something like that wavy thing Nophica was wearing in the poster? Ul'dah something more covering and sparkley, Limsa something more uniform, traditional dress and suit in Ishgard perhaps, armbands, rings, etc.. -
10-25-2011, 02:53 AMTsuga
As long as it's handled by NPCs and not GMs (like XI's system), I think it could be cool.
imo it should have some lengthy requirements, and some unique rewards (such as wedding bands, and wedding clothes). Ragnarok Online had a pretty interesting wedding system, and it allowed for a married couple to have PC "children", which basically turned a character into a "kid" version of them-self. It also had wedding bands that allowed you to teleport directly to your spouse. Married couples should also get MW/AH tax breaks.
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10-25-2011, 02:54 AMShneibelfirst, i am against reward for wedding as my post mention aboveQuote:
Originally Posted by Tsuga
second, conside switch to sims instead ? the system of RO make me : o.0 -
10-25-2011, 03:01 AMFensfieldOh right, the adoption system! Man that was awesome XD Although I suppose it'd be more work to implement here given it can't just halve sprite size as RO did (curiously it also imposed a stat penalty on people chose to be adopted and have their characters become children. I kinda liked that). Anyway something like that would also be brilliant XDQuote:
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10-25-2011, 03:04 AMTsugaThe rewards wouldn't be game breaking. Mostly aesthetic. That's also why I suggested major drawbacks for divorce (such as a hefty fine) and a lengthy process before you can get married, because this would make people think twice about getting married just for the rewards.Quote:
Originally Posted by Shneibel
Also, I was just throwing ideas out, didn't realize that was grounds for the "gtfo and play another game" response.
Yeah, I've actually only experienced it on private servers, but it was a pretty cute system. Having kid characters would be pretty cool, but this game doesn't support alt characters as well as a game like RO, so I'd think it'd be unlikely. Maybe if you're married you could share a larger mog house instead?Quote:
Originally Posted by Fensfield
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10-25-2011, 03:49 AMkensredemptionOkay, this is getting my thumbs up for both laughs AND truth. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Fensfield
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10-25-2011, 03:52 AMkensredemptionI just wanted to say congratulations to you...and to also let you know that you have more important things to do other than loiter on the forums, like enjoying your honeymoon for one. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by RolandDebreton
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10-25-2011, 04:26 AMShippI love when people don't think. Guess what, marriage in Eorzea isn't tied to religion, necessarily. Even if it it, it is a fictional religion where we don't know the rules. This has nothing to do with atheism. This is no "red-herring" argument. This is people tired of RL bias being put into a game where it has no place.Quote:
Originally Posted by RolandDebreton
Keep up your superior attitude of, "I just got married so gay people can suck it," though. That's not what the thread is about in the least, and I also love your assumption that most RL gay people won't bother with marriage, they just want to demand it. Get a clue outside of Faux News. -
10-25-2011, 04:46 AMThainnaOh I'm sure it's still there. It took a year before we actually got accepted for marriage but we got married in '04. Last I knew, ceremonies didn't have to be GM based and there was an NPC to talk to. I could be wrong, like I said in my first post, I quit (over a year ago).Quote:
Originally Posted by kensredemption
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10-25-2011, 06:50 AMNabiri
I don't like marriage in real life. I find it to be a useless and superficial human practice... a show put on for others. It doesn't make someone any more loyal or anything. People can stay together and be in love without it just fine. :3
Edit: Just wanted to say that this is just how I feel about it, and I don't look down on others for getting married. If it makes you happy and enhances your life, I'm happy for you. It's just not for me.
But! Marriages in-game aren't serious and are really fun a lot of the time. ^-^ I'm for in-game marriage as long as it's not straight couples only, (but I don't think we have to worry about that.. Just look at the game so far! Female NPCs flirting with other females. I'd say SE is being pretty fair and not discriminating so far! :D) Also, I think we NEED the option for divorces. XD
I always wondered what happened in XI when you married someone and they quit the game... Are you just... stuck married to a non-existent person then?? XD If someone quits it'd be cool to be able to terminate the marriage so you have the option of re-marrying someday. :3 -
10-25-2011, 07:13 AMLenUsing same-sex attraction for jokes ≠ being pro-gay & lesbian, just so you know.Quote:
Originally Posted by Nabiri
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10-25-2011, 07:24 AMShippI agree, though there were some quite odd lines that had some questionable terms taken out after Yoshi took over. They might have been fixed between beta and launch, though I didn't notice until after Yoshi took over. There was one NPC in particular who was talking about a couple of NPCs and referred to them as queer. It was meant to mean odd, though the exact sentence he said sounded as though it was a double meaning.Quote:
Originally Posted by Len
Honestly, using "queer" to convey the meaning of odd in these times is as outdated as referring to something black as "negro" in the English language. It doesn't matter if Eorzea is trying to be old-timey and antique in it's lexicon, some words simply should be left out due to the context completely changing. I don't remember what he says now, but it's completely different, and I don't believe he even talks with an accent.
I just looked through my old beta pictures and don't seem to have it. I could have sworn I took a picture of it.
Edit: Found another folder and while it wasn't the same NPC conversation I mentioned, it was another one. He no longer says queer, either.
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10-25-2011, 07:29 AMRolandDebretonAnd here I was trying to avoid the controversial. Honestly, I'm a libertarian and wouldn't care if you married your 86' Chevelle to a Mastiff - so for all intents and purposes your knee-jerk reactionism is unfound. Is it what the institution is about, no, not really. But then I don't believe your lungs exist to pour carcinogens into them either, but your a big boy so make your own choices, eh?Quote:
Keep up your superior attitude of, "I just got married so gay people can &*#@ it," though. That's not what the thread is about in the least, and I also love your assumption that most RL gay people won't bother with marriage, they just want to demand it. Get a clue outside of Faux News.
Saying I got married was a matter of pointing out my excitement of a meaningful ritual I was just involved in. So thank you for your well wishes.
And the mention of Atheism was not to insight a passer-by to scream about Fox News (huh?), but was to draw a reference to an image of an outsider to a group, who doesn't really care trying to partake in something they wouldn't normally be interested in. If homosexuals wish to do whatever they are welcome to it. However, please don't stand around and act people in the gay community are jumping on the marriage bandwagon right and left, I could copypasta a ton of statistics by GLT groups indicating the transient nature of many community relationships and the complete ambivalence of many others, but why let facts interfere with RAAAGEEEEE!
Having said that, again I say:
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That's why if they leave it up to literally being a choice made by the individual for their own personal roleplays within the game there is no "controversy." Just supply us with the accouterments and matters will take care of themselves.
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10-25-2011, 07:38 AMShippYou are trying to avoid the controversial by supporting a marriage option, but saying it should allow same sex marriage? What are you on? Adding marriage in a game and then adding a limit to it that same sex characters cannot get married -is- controversial. You just don't see it that way because you've never faced this particular issue in real life, thus omitting it out of a video game you are supporting isn't a slap in the face to you like it is to others. The best way to not be controversial is not to add marriage at all, regardless of whether they add same-sex couples or exclude them, it will be controversial to one side or the other.Quote:
Originally Posted by RolandDebreton
I knew what your reference was, except marriage is not strictly religious. That's not even the point, there are no real life religions stating homosexuality is a sin and that they cannot get married residing in Eorzea. Therefore, there is no lore reason why marriage would only be limited to opposite sex couples. Therefore, the only reason SSM would be excluded again is due to SE being too insecure to add it.Quote:
Saying I got married was a matter of pointing out my excitement of a meaningful ritual I was just involved in. So thank you for your well wishes.
And the mention of Atheism was not to insight a passer-by to scream about Fox News (huh?), but was to draw a reference to an image of an outsider to a group, who doesn't really care trying to partake in something they wouldn't normally be interested in.
Because these facts also apply to the straight community. These stereotypes of gays never being monogamous need to die, because it's far from the actual truth. Hence why I said get a clue outside of Faux News, because you make the same arguments and logical fallacies as people such as Bill O'Reilly.Quote:
If homosexuals wish to do whatever they are welcome to it. However, please don't stand around and act people in the gay community are jumping on the marriage bandwagon right and left, I could copypasta a ton of statistics by GLT groups indicating the transient nature of many community relationships and the complete ambivalence of many others, but why let facts interfere with RAAAGEEEEE!
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10-25-2011, 07:46 AMNabiriWhat jokes do you mean? I'm unsure what you're talking about.Quote:
Originally Posted by Len
Besides that, I didn't say SE was pro anything. I just commented on them not discriminating so far. It's pretty safe to say that it's not likely they'll start doing so in the future. ^^ -
10-25-2011, 07:51 AMRolandDebreton
/em does a huge facepalm.
Let everyone do it. Just that simple - let the players decide if they want.
Why do you wish to act enlightened, and talk about freedom, then demand that we have no choice?
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10-25-2011, 08:01 AMkensredemption
Get back on topic please. From what I've seen so far a majority of people who posted are for in-game marriage, but I want this thread to stay open for at least another week. Despite the well-thought out debates, it's like I said in my original post: Take it elsewhere.
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10-25-2011, 10:22 AMAnapingofness
Yeah, I think in game marriage would be nifty.
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10-25-2011, 10:41 AMDreamer
I'd like to see marriage in-game. Preferably without gender or race restrictions (honestly, I can't imagine that people would even consider banning certain coupled based on those things in this day and age), but I would rather have it those kinds of restrictions than not have it at all. I've played a few other games that implemented this sort of thing and it was always fun.
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10-25-2011, 11:41 AMKymusashi
After 2.0 is released and its had time to be sorted out, then I wouldn't mind this thing being added. It was an interesting thing to see in FFXI, although SE made the process needlessly difficult.
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10-25-2011, 11:51 AMYazuaru
Attending my IRL best friend's in-game wedding was quite possibly my favourite memory of XI - and it would be awesome to see it again in XIV.
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10-25-2011, 10:07 PMTempestmoon
This is just one more feature to bring depth to the game, bring it on SE. And let their be Giant craftable wedding cakes ;)
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10-25-2011, 10:33 PMSeif
Equal rights or no weddings at all please.
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10-26-2011, 03:37 AMkensredemption
I'm gonna need to sift through the thread to see how many people approved and how many didn't. It'll take me a bit since I have other things to do today. :P
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10-26-2011, 03:39 AMellohwellbtw, if it seemed like i was against ingame weddings im not. I just dont see the point of them IRL.Quote:
Originally Posted by kensredemption
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10-26-2011, 03:41 AMEmeraldHillGet back in-game, and leave the horribly out-dated and meaningless rituals for real-life.Quote:
Originally Posted by kensredemption
If anything, add a couple/buddy system. Some games do it and I like it. They get some perks like being able to summon/teleport on a 3h cooldown directly to your friend. 5% more exp while partying, stuff that doesn't really affect balance or fairness too much but is nice perks to have when you party with someone all the time. -
10-26-2011, 03:43 AMFujimori
I would like that.
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10-26-2011, 03:44 AMkensredemptionRight back at you, troll.Quote:
Originally Posted by EmeraldHill
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10-26-2011, 03:46 AMkensredemptionThat's fine, as long as I know what your stance is. What I DON'T like is people inciting controversial debates when all I clearly asked for was a "Yes" or "No". That's all.Quote:
Originally Posted by ellohwell
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10-26-2011, 03:50 AMEmeraldHillI really rather it not be a big thing, but a simple right-click on your friendlist and selecting one friend to be your partner, or going to a npc to register your fellowship for a gil-sink fee.Quote:
Originally Posted by kensredemption
If people want to RP it out and invite friends more power to them, but I feel an archaic custom being implemented would only cause arguments to erupt and moral lines being drawn on people faces, possibly in the shape of cat whiskers. -
10-26-2011, 03:55 AMkensredemptionYeesh...you're very business-like about this, aren't you? More than anything I wanted to add another dimension for people to actually role-play instead of slaving away on endless mobs simply for the sake of progression. I get bored out of my mind when that happens. Overall I just want the XIV experience to be more engrossing for players who want to take part in the actual role-playing part of a Massively-Multiplayer Online Role-Playing Game.Quote:
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I'm not saying that what you're suggesting's a bad idea. It just seems more of a "friends with benefits" feature...Err...no innuendo intended. -
10-26-2011, 04:03 AMEmeraldHillAs I said, if people want to put on their best clothes and RP themselves they can, nothing is stopping them. Real RPers don't need a npc to do all the work for them, right? They could have a wedding right now if they wanted to.Quote:
Originally Posted by kensredemption
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10-26-2011, 04:12 AMkensredemptionThe one problem with that though is that there are individuals (Trolls) who will intrude on those player organized events which will, needless to say, ruin the experience for those who are actually a part of the ceremony. Why people do such things is beyond be, so better to have the party involved and their guests be sanctioned off in an instance or something - away from prying eyes, and with member-exclusive cinematics and benefits. I could elaborate more, but I'm strapped for time at the moment.Quote:
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10-26-2011, 04:28 AMEmeraldHillI flesh things out as I go along.Quote:
Originally Posted by kensredemption
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10-26-2011, 05:33 AMkensredemptionGuess you act first, ask questions later...or something like that, anyway. Ha ha ha.Quote:
Originally Posted by EmeraldHill
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10-26-2011, 05:59 AMellohwell
People are all for Wedding Bells in Eorzea, as long as they aren't these bells:
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10-26-2011, 07:26 AMKioHaha!Quote:
Originally Posted by ellohwell
I think the "incorporate your character/party into the cutscenes" tech would work wonderfully for wedding ceremonies.
If this does become a future option, I humbly beg not to have the wedding dresses designs slightly vary per race. I hate when I get an uglier outfit because I'm a hume instead of miqote.