Originally Posted by
Lonely_Lily
As it has been said, it's just about and will always be about communication (IG) and point of view (here).
For a bit of context, I play all the jobs but healers are my favorites followed by tanks.
When I started tanking or when I discovered new dungeons I remember seeing dps going crazy on pulling new packs or me being rescued from pack A to B without any words and thus, not even understanding what was happening.
Since then, even if I tank pretty well now, I think (point of view) that healers or dps going ahead and pulling adds without any prior notice (communication) are a pain to play with.
At the end it's all about respect. I respect my mates when I play, I try to go at their pace, whatever my job is. I wait for CS, I try to let some time for a newcomer to discover a dungeon when it's his first time, etc.
If you, as an other player, that can't wait 1 more minute in a whole dungeon cannot stand that, for me, you are a pain.
I usually do W2W, and if I can't because I'm not confident in my healers, in my dps, or at the dungeon specificities, I just warn everyone in the chat.
And if, despite all that, you start a fight during a CS, yep, I won't come until the CS is over so bear with it. If you pull and run like a chicken, yep, bear with it or come to me. And if the dungeon is a nightmare to deal with, I just quit because there is plenty of yellow quest that are waiting for me that I will enjoyway more..
It's not about ego or whatever, it's about what I think is respect (point of view). I can change my way of acting or playing if you communicate somehow with me (coomunication again) but otherwise, I'm totally fin to be the jerk of the one I call a jerk.
If Something is wrong, I try communication, if that doesn't work, I leave. It's for every job that I play, not just tank nor healers. There is no good answers, it's just my answer to that kind of situation.