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A friend of mine has a physical handicap that severely limits his motor functions. It's actually pretty amazing what he has been able to do, as he uses the mouse with his left hand (still with great difficulty), while his right hand can do little more than make inputs with one finger. He has to work so much harder to do what we all take for granted and it is truly inspirational to see him in action.

I've seen him perform in some games to the point where you would never know that he was playing with such a severe impairment, but sometimes no matter how hard he tries, he makes a mistake. Every time I'm in a duty finder and someone messes up, I always think of my friend and imagine that many people out there are dealing with hurdles in life that we may not even be able to comprehend.

So next time someone does something silly, instead of calling them a retard, remember that they might actually be mentally handicapped and just trying the hardest they can to get some enjoyment out of life. Play with compassion and remember that there are a lot of people out there that are not as fortunate as others, but still try as hard and deserve respect not ridicule.

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Gonna make a post in here every once in a while to remember my friend.

The problem is most people that make a mistake are infact just playing brain afk and not victim of a handycap.

I think it's awesome your friend has his fun though and strongly encourage you and his/your FC to help him otu every way you can. But I doubt the DF will be as kind :/

I know the feeling. My mother plays and she's 65. Her reflexes (both mental and physical) have slowed. She does the best she can but I think she may have hit her limit with story mode Garuda. She's just not fast enough to take out the plumes. And after the way one tank behaved when we kept wiping, she's refusing to do anymore dungeons unless it's a FC group since they are very understanding and willing to work twice as hard to make up for her slow reflexes.

Such an awesome post. This goes also toward to daily life situation. We see people make mistakes, but we don't know their story. I personally went through a period of time that I needed to deal with a lot of internal conflict in my head which affected my daily life. After that experience, I always give people a benefit of the doubt, the person you see struggling with some basic stuff might be going through something huge in their life and just trying to do the best to move-on/survived. Don't quickly judge someone based on little things, as specially when it comes to a game: it's just a game.

On a sidenote, last night, before the server went down for maintenance, I was in a HM dungeon. I was having a very tough time healing due to the lag, we wiped a couple of times at the first two bosses. I apologize non-stop thinking the tank and DPS is going to hate me. The tank was nice enough and said "it's okay, don't try too hard, it's just a game." I actually have met many good people on DF.

More threads like these are needed with all the negativity flowing around spread LOVE and PEACE!

This community mentally handicap. Adults fighting for a video game item and these stupid FC (Guilds)

Just fyi you can edit your original post to bypass the character limit.

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Originally Posted by ObliviousFool

A friend of mine has a physical handicap that severely limits his motor functions. It's actually pretty amazing what he has been able to do, as he uses the mouse with his left hand (still with great difficulty), while his right hand can do little more than make inputs with one finger. He has to work so much harder to do what we all take for granted and it is truly inspirational to see him in action.

I've seen him perform in some games to the point where you would never know that he was playing with such a severe impairment, but sometimes no matter how hard he tries, he makes a mistake. Every time I'm in a duty finder and someone messes up, I always think of my friend and imagine that many people out there are dealing with hurdles in life that we may not even be able to comprehend.



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This is pretty cool. Glad to hear he can still play games. Woot!

BTW, you can edit your post to get over the 1000 character limit. :)

Also, FFXIV received an award for being handicapped accessible - http://www.ablegamers.com/ablegamers...me-of-the-year :D

And I totally agree with being compassionate :)

Sorry to be "That guy" but this isn't going to happen.


In the world we live in now where it is better and socially acceptable to tread someone underfoot to get somewhere is common I seriously doubt that this will convince anyone for even a second.


It is acceptable to belittle someone publicly and applauded.

Where rudeness is commonplace and the word "thank you" is all but dead.

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I know the feeling. My mother plays and she's 65. Her reflexes (both mental and physical) have slowed. She does the best she can but I think she may have hit her limit with story mode Garuda. She's just not fast enough to take out the plumes. And after the way one tank behaved when we kept wiping, she's refusing to do anymore dungeons unless it's a FC group since they are very understanding and willing to work twice as hard to make up for her slow reflexes.

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My mom plays some of my online games with me (she's 57) and she has the same issues. She doesn't like people yelling at her when she can't react fast enough so sometimes she refuses to do the high level content unless it's just me and her.

I've learned to be very tolerant of others when it comes to pugging dungeons and raids.

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Sorry to be "That guy" but this isn't going to happen.


In the world we live in now where it is better and socially acceptable to tread someone underfoot to get somewhere is common I seriously doubt that this will convince anyone for even a second.

Where rudeness is commonplace and the word "thank you" is all but dead.

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It has never been socially acceptable to belittle someone. I think most people feel it's easier to ignore someone who is being bullied rather than go out of their way to stand up for that person.

Actually, I have yet to complete a dungeon where everyone did not say "thank you" or "good run" or "good group" or something to that effect. By the way, I was practically in tears reading the initial post. I hope that everyone can remember that they all ran a dungeon for a first time.

Stories like the OP make me happy. It's always good to hear someone not letting obstacles keep them from doing something they enjoy.

And it's a good reminder that, no matter how much time we spend playing, or how seriously we take it, it's still just a game. If someone makes a mistake, it's not the end of the world.

Great post OP. I'm glad to hear this and it truly warms my heart :)

Great post. The MMO culture that is littered with sociopaths/anarchists needs more stories like this to show them what empathy really is.

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Originally Posted by ObliviousFool

So next time someone does something silly, instead of calling them a retard, remember that they might actually be mentally handicapped

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Maybe change that line just a little bit. But yeah I've seen some pretty inspirational videos about handicap people playing games and sometimes well enough to be inspiring to others. This is not related to Final Fantasy but it's sort of the same deal with a handicap player playing amongst the best of them. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=83nSodg-HTU

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Originally Posted by MyuZero

Maybe change that line just a little bit. But yeah I've seen some pretty inspirational videos about handicap people playing games and sometimes well enough to be inspiring to others. This is not related to Final Fantasy but it's sort of the same deal with a handicap player playing amongst the best of them. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=83nSodg-HTU

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Idk, I was kind of trying to make a point. I realized using the word "retard" comes off insensitive, but that right there was my point. People throw that word around like it means nothing, but there are many people out there that live with different degrees of mental debilitation, many of which are perfectly capable of understanding what the word "retard" means when used in a negative connotation.

Great post OP.

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Originally Posted by MrSagitarius

Actually, I have yet to complete a dungeon where everyone did not say "thank you" or "good run" or "good group" or something to that effect.

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While I'm sure a lot of people (myself included) usually say thanks at the end for a smooth/clear run of a dungeon, a lot of people just say it at the end fishing for commendations. I guess either way it helps the atmosphere... just that not all of those "thanks" are necessarily genuine.

Nice to see so many compassionate folks.

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Originally Posted by ObliviousFool

So next time someone does something silly, instead of calling them a retard, remember that they might actually be mentally handicapped and just trying the hardest they can to get some enjoyment out of life. Play with compassion and remember that there are a lot of people out there that are not as fortunate as others, but still try as hard and deserve respect not ridicule.

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Long story short, anyone who is not as good as you is probably mentally or physically handicapped?

LOL!


I have a better idea.

How bout we all be nice to 99% of people because 99% of people who que up for content are doing so with the same intent as us... beating the content.

Don't take pity on their lack of skill and chalk it up to the fact that there is a chance they are retarded in some way.

Here's the way I look at it.


First off, I'll always give anyone at least 2 chances at any piece of content.

If we fail multiple times and it's due to a fixable problem from another player, tell them what to do to fix their mistakes.

If we fail multiple times and it's due to an un-fixable problem from another player. Tell them thanks for the try and better luck with another group, vote abandon, and move on with your day and let them move on as well.

If we fail and it's my fault, I ask if there is something I'm doing wrong. If they say no, I'll ask if they want to vote abandon or if they are cool with giving me another shot.

You're preaching in the wilderness.

Most the times i try be nice with all the party members, but always there an embittered for ruin the ambient of the Run =/.

I always try to be mean in a nice way if the issue is to the point where we can't finish content. Other than that I don't really care how they play or how bad their rotation is.