What do you do with a Blacklist full?

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Originally Posted by SerLuke

Sure it isn't, but at the same time I think we should all take time to word our responses to people with a bit of patience and kindness and attempt to understand when interacting with total strangers, For example what one person would consider normal banter in a game another might get deeply hurt over, maybe even suicidal.

I'm just saying understanding why someone might be over-sensitive is a lot better than just going "you have a problem, get over it"

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This is coming from someone like yourself who suffers from a myriad issues. I agree it would nice, but it is all extremely unrealistic and so sort of a moot point in all of this. Here is the issue we do have problems, and in the grand scheme to most who do not know or suffer from said problems personally it is simply a get over it issue. Since that is how most people without our problems handle it by getting over it. Asking the general public how we with problems should handle something is honestly insane, and expecting the general public to cater their responses to us and consider our problems which many do not understand is selfish in my opinion.

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Originally Posted by Awha

This is coming from someone like yourself who suffers from a myriad issues. I agree it would nice, but it is all extremely unrealistic and so sort of a moot point in all of this. Here is the issue we do have problems, and in the grand scheme to most who do not know or suffer from said problems personally it is simply a get over it issue. Since that is how most people without our problems handle it by getting over it. Asking the general public how we with problems should handle something is honestly insane, and expecting the general public to cater their responses to us and consider our problems which many do not understand is selfish in my opinion.

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Welp, thanks for calling me selfish and insane, so much for trying to have a reasonable, level headed dialog without resorting to insults.

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Originally Posted by SerLuke

Welp, thanks for calling me selfish and insane, so much for trying to have a reasonable, level headed dialog without resorting to insults.

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Sorry, this comes with my own issues I do not view calling the actions someone takes and crazy as a personal insult. For example I enjoy skateboarding, and I tend to do dangerous things, my family tells me all the time that was crazy, I do not take that as me being crazy unless they outright say I am crazy. Just how I am, and often forget others are not the same. Did not mean you were insane or selfish just the action itself is insane and selfish.

In short I only view statements that were personally made at me as an insult, and for some odd reason I do not tie an action to a person but that may have to do with my past and how shady my family is. Either way I apologize was not my intent for you to think of it as an insult, I was referring to your actions not as a person.

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Originally Posted by Awha

Sorry, this comes with my own issues I do not view calling the actions someone takes and crazy as a personal insult. For example I enjoy skateboarding, and I tend to do dangerous things, my family tells me all the time that was crazy, I do not take that as me being crazy unless they outright say I am crazy. Just how I am, and often forget others are not the same. Did not mean you were insane or selfish just the action itself is insane and selfish.

In short I only view statements that were personally made at me as an insult, and for some odd reason I do not tie an action to a person but that may have to do with my past and how shady my family is. Either way I apologize was not my intent for you to think of it as an insult, I was referring to your actions not as a person.

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Apology accepted, and honestly its not so much that I want to be treated this way, I'm not in that place in life anymore and I'm thankful for it, its that I've been in that place, I know how it made me feel when people talked to me that way, I don't want others to go through it, sure I know asking people to be kind and understanding is idealistic and naive, but I its how I try to be my life and how I try to interact with others in the game in hopes my kindness shown to them might extend to others and so on and so forth.

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Originally Posted by Izanagi_Fiaresu

I shame the Futa rp'ers in Shout chat to get them to blacklist me of course.

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If you ever see public ERP that is so describing that you can tell what they have under their smallclothes, report it instead and do the entirety of Balmung a favor, no one likes public ERPers, not even other ERPers.

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Originally Posted by SerLuke

Apology accepted, and honestly its not so much that I want to be treated this way, I'm not in that place in life anymore and I'm thankful for it, its that I've been in that place, I know how it made me feel when people talked to me that way, I don't want others to go through it, sure I know asking people to be kind and understanding is idealistic and naive, but I its how I try to be my life and how I try to interact with others in the game in hopes my kindness shown to them might extend to others and so on and so forth.

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I get where you are coming from, but I still stand by my mindset that A) if the OP does suffer from certain issues coming to a general forum expecting help that does not boil down to get over it is insane (in the sense of shocking; outrageous). B) Expecting otherwise is extremely selfish. That is just my view on the matter, though the way I got stable with my issues differs from some, I simply came to terms with that fact that the only person I have control over is myself everyone else is outside my bubble. As such only things that I "try" to let impact my mood and state of mind are things that are in my control and I am personally able to take action to change.

Clear the list and start over...
Why do you have so many people blacklisted?
I think I have 4 and they are RMT that got onto Balmung. That I just never cleared off after reporting them and waiting a day or 2.

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Originally Posted by Kewitt

Clear the list and start over...
Why do you have so many people blacklisted?
I think I have 4 and they are RMT that got onto Balmung. That I just never cleared off after reporting them and waiting a day or 2.

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zoop badoop

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Originally Posted by Gula

I don't have 200 people on my blacklist. Was my OP not clear on that? Or maybe I worded things that alluded that I did, to which I do not. And for that, I apologize.

I came up with this theory as I watched the chat while waiting for FATES as well as NN.

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I’ve played MMOs long enough to say with 100% confidence that if your blacklist is full, the problem is probably you.

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If blacklists kept you from getting queued up with people on them in roulettes, I could see needing a greatly expanded one.

As it is though., I can only imagine you'd have to be the kind of person who is either offended at everything or who instigates in an attempt to get responses.

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As for "blatant transphobic posts", I can't take accusations like this seriously considering that anyone that doesn't automatically agree with someone saying they are trans is labeled as transphobic. It's been tossed around to the point it has no meaning.

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Yeah, Ive found the "offended by everything" crowd and the "if you dont fully support every thought and action I take you're an X-ist and should be murdered irl and/or never have a job again" crowd have a fantastically large overlap.

One thing that I would love to be added is 'delete all from black list'.

I black list bots regularly to reduce the spam on the screen when looking at marketboards etc and used to not clean out the black list until I noticed it was full. By the time the list is full perhaps 90% of the names on the list are banned/removed and the rest aren't a concern any more.