Introducing The Nervous Eorzean, a FFXIV discord for those with depression/anxiety

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Originally Posted by Alanci

Could I please get an invite?

Thank you.

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Hello, Alanci!

This would be the invitation link: https://discord.gg/MKhWfd

Looking forward to see you around!

Sorry but I just saw your reply and the invite has expired. I promise I won't miss the next one!

Yeah, someone generate a new invite link please. I'd like to join as well. ~

Agreed. That invite would be nice to have as well. :3

https://discord.gg/xcNhkK
Here you guys go :)

Hmm. I am really considering this. I just get so nervous and anxious when it comes to these things. I won't even join my FCs discord because I prefer to keep them all at arm's length. They tell me, "You won't have to be logged into game to chat with us." and I'm over here all, "and that's exactly the way I like it." I don't like it when people I've never met try to get closer to me. But because I don't talk to anyone here in-game on a regular basis, and because this community will have people who understand this, I might be more comfortable joining.

There's no automated announcement of joining or leaving in the discord. You'll be able to join quietly and just listen to the conversation until you feel comfortable talking. Nobody will pressure you or call you out for it. If you need help, don't be afraid to ask, everyone there wants to help those who ask for it. Or if you just want to rant to a friendly audience, they'll do that for you too.

And if you have questions feel free to DM the mods/admin, they'll answer any questions you have. In all, they're a friendly bunch.

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Originally Posted by RognarB

While the thought isnt bad, I doubt clustering people with anxiety/depression will do anything other than normalise or aggravate the problems. I'd recommend to anyone who believes to be suffering from those ailments to seek professional help immediately.
Depression isnt a fashion statement, its a mental sickness that is cureable.

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I agree completely with your statement. It might be easier to think of this as a support group, though, which is as equally important to professional help. It's one thing to talk to a professional regularly (I do), but it's another to speak to someone who's going through the same stuff you are, or has been through it and come out; there's no teacher like experience. When you live with mental health issues, "normalising" as you put it, is super important. Normalising in the sense that what you feel, how you feel, isn't something you're alone in, and the challenges you face are dealt with by people *like* you (so I can do it too, gosh darnit!!), rather than "just the healthy folk".

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Originally Posted by Gemina

Hmm. I am really considering this. I just get so nervous and anxious when it comes to these things. I won't even join my FCs discord because I prefer to keep them all at arm's length. They tell me, "You won't have to be logged into game to chat with us." and I'm over here all, "and that's exactly the way I like it." I don't like it when people I've never met try to get closer to me. But because I don't talk to anyone here in-game on a regular basis, and because this community will have people who understand this, I might be more comfortable joining.

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Literally how I feel, too! I love the idea and the concept of this discord, but my arm's pretty long! ;.;

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Originally Posted by Alien_Gamer

There's no automated announcement of joining or leaving in the discord. You'll be able to join quietly and just listen to the conversation until you feel comfortable talking. Nobody will pressure you or call you out for it. If you need help, don't be afraid to ask, everyone there wants to help those who ask for it. Or if you just want to rant to a friendly audience, they'll do that for you too.

And if you have questions feel free to DM the mods/admin, they'll answer any questions you have. In all, they're a friendly bunch.

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Not announcing my joining was intentional? I was wondering where that alert was.

Yes, intentional; they didn't want to shine a spotlight on someone who may already be a bit reluctant to reach out to people.

If you're on the fence, join and watch the group. If its not for you, you can leave and not have to worry about it. If you like them, say Hi and they'll welcome you.

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Originally Posted by RognarB

While the thought isnt bad, I doubt clustering people with anxiety/depression will do anything other than normalise or aggravate the problems. I'd recommend to anyone who believes to be suffering from those ailments to seek professional help immediately.
Depression isnt a fashion statement, its a mental sickness that is cureable.

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First thing my psychiatrist and my counselor both told me is there is no "cure" for depression. It can be treated and you can go on to have a full life without ever needing treatment again. But the chance of it resurfacing due to any random trigger is always going to be there.

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Originally Posted by RognarB

While the thought isnt bad, I doubt clustering people with anxiety/depression will do anything other than normalise or aggravate the problems. I'd recommend to anyone who believes to be suffering from those ailments to seek professional help immediately.
Depression isnt a fashion statement, its a mental sickness that is cureable.

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This. Grouping people up with mental disorders that can be agitated specifically by others who have the same disorder is a bad idea. I can only believe these people are just wearing the labels as a fad cause it's cool to say that these days. Otherwise if they genuinely had these problems they should, as you said, seek real help and should avoid others with the same issues to not further normalize/feed off each others issues.

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Originally Posted by Teppie

Not announcing my joining was intentional? I was wondering where that alert was.

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When I originally set up the Discord (but I passed on leadership so long ago I forgot when I did it), this was something I intentionally set up. There are announcements for joining/leaving (I think anyway, I know they changed which bot they use, and I can't remember if I set up the Discord built in join notifications, or the bot's ones that I set up at the time, I have a weird preferred bot choice), but they're hidden away so only the mods can see them (and they know not to announce it). As far as normal members go, they won't see you join/leave. So it's all stashed away to protect the privacy of people who join.

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Originally Posted by Mezzoforte

This. Grouping people up with mental disorders that can be agitated specifically by others who have the same disorder is a bad idea. I can only believe these people are just wearing the labels as a fad cause it's cool to say that these days. Otherwise if they genuinely had these problems they should, as you said, seek real help and should avoid others with the same issues to not further normalize/feed off each others issues.

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Actually... it helps. We even say this is a place that can be used to help you feel like you belong somewhere. Here's the thing, grouping us up together can help, or are you trying to say the group support I get from a charity called Mind is a bad idea... a charity who continues to run the group support because it works. It won't work for everyone I can understand, but I can tell you now, the people at these group support sessions aren't just going through a fad. This Discord works in a similar way, it allows you to feel you're not alone. We even go out of our way to say this is not a replacement for professional support. But by helping them feel they're not alone, it can support people in its own unique way.

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Originally Posted by Mezzoforte

I can only believe these people are just wearing the labels as a fad cause it's cool to say that these days.

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What makes you think none of us got actual help? I have, and I'm on a low dose of Citalopram to start me off. Nothing in this server is triggering, we're looking at cute pictures and listening to music. No one is in here acting like conditions are a fashion statement, nor are they acting like this is a replacement for therapy and medication. There's a venting channel and that's it, people can choose to not participate in that part of the server.

I just joined

invite link expired.

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Originally Posted by Pixelburst

invite link expired.

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Hello, Serena. This link should work for you: https://discord.gg/YgteGS

/joined

Good on you for setting up such a thing.

I just wanted to say this is one of the best Discords I've ever been in, you all are amazing people and great friends!

Sadly link expired. Was going to check it out.

Here is a link for you for the server Nagafusa https://discord.gg/SMj8rXD

I decided to join to take a look at it.

Is this Discord server still in service? The link does not work

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Originally Posted by KatCnaa

Is this Discord server still in service? The link does not work

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The Discord is still in service. Try this link to see if you can get in:
https://discord.gg/4t8ynTt

Note: I tried to set this link to never expire, so hopefully it stays valid!

Is the discord still active? it's been a difficult ride since i joined ff14 last year