"First Impression" Healing Horror
As many of you well know, Pharos Sirius can either be a pleasant run if everyone knows what to do (or is willing to learn from others) or the worst hell spawn dungeon ever conceived if even 1 or 2 players are not pulling their weight or otherwise ignoring mechanics. I have started to dread seeing this instance in roulette because I can feel helpless on Siren if I have to constantly deal with lunatic voice layered on top of other mistakes made by the party.
Even so, I try to have the attitude that I must take what I get when I select roulette and will not drop unless the group has given up. I'm the type of healer that will sit there and help people try to do fights they haven't figured out yet because I enjoy getting people through bosses that are difficult for them and making runs that are otherwise impossible work. I have never initiated a vote to kick on anyone, and I have only agreed to one vote abandon because I was in a group that was repeatedly dying to Siren well before she was close to death herself and the others had enough. My point is, I will work with people if they are willing to work with me.
My Achilles Heel, however, is jerks. You put me together with someone who is nasty to the group and I will go from being a healer who will happily time out of an AK with inexperienced members to a person with no empathy whatsoever.
I had a Pharos Sirius like this today. It's common for people to ditch at the beginning of this dungeon, and I will sometimes bow out if nobody else that is left seems happy to run it, but this Warrior is special. After a couple of dps ninja dropped while the bubble was still over us at the beginning, I made some sort of off handed comment about how it was amusing to watch people give up on this instance so quickly. Big mistake, because as I have come to learn people will often judge you based on first impressions.
Warrior charges ahead and pulls the first three packs, and I honestly don't know what possessed him to do this. Did he think he could speed run this like WP? Was he trying to torment me? I don't know. Whatever the reason I could not keep up with that much damage, especially when random mobs were spraying all over the dps and I wasn't expecting him to treat this place like WP. We wipe messily.
But it doesn't end there. I wish it had ended there. Most people, when confronted with a wipe like this, take a step back and try to evaluate what they did wrong. Not this guy. As I'm ressing behind him, he goes and does it again. I have 1k or so mana at that moment. Nobody has protect or stoneskin. If it didn't work the first time, it wasn't going to work this time for sure. So I do something that I almost never do to anyone, the last resort of a scorned healer: I stand there and watch them all die.
As we bite the dust again (summoner dragged mobs to me and I ate it too, which was probably justified), they all tear into me for not healing them. First of all, I have never seen anyone try to speed run Pharos Sirius before. Who does that? Many of the trash mobs are designed with mechanics that are meant to punish groups who aren't focusing or stunning certain mobs. Thankfully the warrior leaves before heaping on too much abuse, and the dps decide to wait for vote abandon because they think I'm a troll now. I leave the party since I feel like a complete jerk and I am just disgusted with the whole thing.
People seem to just lose it in Pharos Sirius sometimes. I myself don't like Siren, and I dread groups where people ignore the mechanics on the bosses and leave me to tank legions of adds. I often regret unlocking this place. As I have previously stated, this place is very simple if the whole group follows the mechanics and plays well. It can be really frustrating sometimes, though. I dunno.
I guess the major thing that people should take away from this is be very careful about the first impression you make. Maybe the warrior thought I was an asshole and decided to troll me. Perhaps the group would have been less inclined to blame me for the Warrior's incompetent pulling if I had only said "Hello" like I usually did or kept my mouth shut. After all, they don't know me. I'm just glad that experiences like this are usually rare in 4 man dungeon runs. Remember, make a good first impression and be friendly. If you can't be, excuse yourself before things get worse.
Don't ask tanks for more work.
A Bard friend of mine was working on finally reaching 50.
"Queue times are too long, can you help me?"
I join up with him (ilvl45~) and we begin running Aur Vale.
Our group was; i45 BRD, i45 SMN, i90 WHM, i85 PLD.
Initially I'm dreading this dungeon mostly because I know it's going to be slow and there's 0 benefit in me being here for this 45min run.
Tank starts pulling 2 adds at a time.
/fc "This is going to take forever..."
/p "Tankbro, you're invincible here, we're both nicely geared, pull some more adds!"
/p "SMNbro, aoe!"
-Proceeds to pull 5~7 adds at a time without burning cooldowns-
I don't say anything because I pretty much asked for it, panic hard, burn divine seals and SoS 'cus I'm dragging hate all over the place for my insane Cure I spam.
After first boss he slowed down to a less 'screw you' pace and it was nice.
Moral of the story: Don't Ask Your Tank For More Work Than You Can Handle.