Getting to play with my kid

Hey all, thanks ahead of time for your help.

My wife and I have been playing since the beta for ARR (and I've been playing since 1.0), I'm on the Crystal Datacenter and play on the Coeurl server. I have a Free Company that I've been in since ARR.

My youngest son has expressed interest in playing. But my wife and I don't want want to purchase the game and start a monthly fee for him unless he's sure he wants to play. So we figured the free trial would work great for him. My oldest son used the free trial during Shadowbringers, and it worked great. He was able to create a character on our Server.

However, my youngest son has been trying for 2 weeks to get on to our server, it just simply doesn't allow him to select it. My wife and I read a forum post suggesting that we try at odd hours, so we've taken turns waking up very early and trying to create a character on his account on coerul to no avail.

I even tried to use the recruit a friend campaign, but as far as I could tell, we couldn't appear to use it with his Trial account.

Is there any way to get our son onto our server, so we can invite him into our FC, and allow him to play with some friends and family? (His uncle and god parents are in our FC, as are some close family friends). Do we just keep trying and hope that we get lucky?

Thank you!

You can check which servers are open to character creation here: https://na.finalfantasyxiv.com/lodestone/worldstatus/

Coeurl is currently Congested, this means that no characters can be created there. This status is only changed by the devs during patches. The trying at odd hours thing only works for non congested servers experiencing soft locks to character creation due to lots of players being logged in during prime time.

Your son can create a character on a non congested server and you can play with him using the world visit system, or you can wait until Coeurl is no longer set to congested but we have no way of knowing when the devs will change that status.

Edit: Information on world visit in case you aren't familiar with that system: https://na.finalfantasyxiv.com/lodes...de/worldvisit/

Thank you so much for your reply! I'll look into the world transfer, and if it doesn't suit what we are looking for, I'll just bite the bullet and pay for an account. As I understand it, we can get him on the server with the recruit a friend (hopefully that's right!)

Have a wonderful day.

To my knowledge Recruit a Friend will not bypass the server congestion. I hope world visit will suit your needs, or that the devs will change the congestion status on Coeurl soon.

I hope you have a wonderful day as well.

Edit: Just thought I'd add a clarification that world visit is not the same as a server transfer. World Visit is free and lets you play on any server on your data center with some restrictions like not being able to access your retainers while not on your home server. Server transfer is a paid service that moves your character to a new server and makes it their home server. Server transfers cannot be used to bypass congestion status.

Understood. Thank you for taking the time to clarify everything. I really appreciate it!

First look at https://na.finalfantasyxiv.com/lodestone/worldstatus/

If the world is any status other than Congested, then sometimes making a character at odd hours works.

If the world is Congested (which Coeurl is), then you cannot make new characters on it period, nor transfer to it.

The only way to play on Coeurl right now is make the character on a different world and world visit to it. They can make a character on Coeurl at some future date when Congested status is removed at one of the patches, but we don't know how many weeks or months that will be. It could even be next Tuesday.

World Visit: https://na.finalfantasyxiv.com/lodes...de/worldvisit/

Are you sure you want your kid to play a game full of gooners advertising ERP and virtual s*x in all major cities and PF? o.O

Hello, Coeurl is currently congested, it has absolutely nothing to do with your account/him being your son etc.
Check FFXIV server status you can see it is congested. Tomorrow is maintenance, it should be reset. Until then unfortunately you have to wait for Coeurl to be open again.

The info have always been foggy about congestion. I once could not create a character on a prefered world, and it took me far too long to get the right informations.

There is 2 type of congestions :

- First there is the congested status, that can be checked here : https://na.finalfantasyxiv.com/lodestone/worldstatus/
If a world is marked as congested, you cannot create a new character. Even during down hours.

- Then there the usual congestion, when too many character are connected on the server. This can happen on standard and prefered world. You cannot check it on the website. This is the congestion that can be avoided by creating a character during odd hours (it's the congestion the line "*The creation of new characters may also be restricted on other Worlds, depending on the level of congestion." is about on the worldstatus page).

So you won't be able to create a character on coeurl until they change the status of the server. It could change tomorrow like it could change in 2 month.

First, this isn't World of Warcraft which was (mostly) safe for teens. Final Fantasy XIV is a much more adult-oriented game where you will find tons of profanity, cybersex and women selling dirty pics. Your son will no doubt see a lot of things, mainly from older women, that he should not see until he is older. There are also men who may prey upon your son. Square Enix is very lax towards this sort of thing. If he plays on PC, there is a 90% chance that he will run into this material on the Crystal datacenter. Make sure he plays a MALE character (this is very important). Otherwise, God help you and your household.

Second, this also isn't like World of Warcraft or other games where you can start playing on any server. You can only choose from a few, and those few can change depending on the day or season. Square Enix is not a wealthy company and cannot afford to operate servers with endless capacity. You will have to wait, not in the middle of the night like the good old days, but several months or even a year. Times are rough and Square Enix is having a hard time with capacity as it is. You chose FFXIV so obviously the tradeoff is worth it, but this game will involve a LOT of compromise compared to ones run by larger companies.

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First, this isn't World of Warcraft which was (mostly) safe for teens. Final Fantasy XIV is a much more adult-oriented game where you will find tons of profanity, cybersex and women selling dirty pics. Your son will no doubt see a lot of things, mainly from older women, that he should not see until he is older. There are also men who may prey upon your son. Square Enix is very lax towards this sort of thing. If he plays on PC, there is a 90% chance that he will run into this material on the Crystal datacenter. Make sure he plays a MALE character (this is very important). Otherwise, God help you and your household.

Second, this also isn't like World of Warcraft or other games where you can start playing on any server. You can only choose from a few, and those few can change depending on the day or season. Square Enix is not a wealthy company and cannot afford to operate servers with endless capacity. You will have to wait, not in the middle of the night like the good old days, but several months or even a year. Times are rough and Square Enix is having a hard time with capacity as it is. You chose FFXIV so obviously the tradeoff is worth it, but this game will involve a LOT of compromise compared to ones run by larger companies.

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Game is ok as long as you don’t interact with anyone on more than a superficial “hey, go, ready, bye” level.

WOW has weird people but at least it’s ‘gameplay people’ so from my personal experience the worst you get is somebody telling you to die from cancer cause you didn’t heal him while he got hammered by 5 people in PvP but hey, at least they’re upfront and genuine but FFXIV has the actually dangerous people.

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at least they’re upfront and genuine

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People are upfront and genuine, just not when it breaks the rules, like your example would. That example long slid past the GMs in WoW because they apparently didn't care enough about people being rude.

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Game is ok as long as you don’t interact with anyone on more than a superficial “hey, go, ready, bye” level.

WOW has weird people but at least it’s ‘gameplay people’ so from my personal experience the worst you get is somebody telling you to die from cancer cause you didn’t heal him while he got hammered by 5 people in PvP but hey, at least they’re upfront and genuine but FFXIV has the actually dangerous people.

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Are we now denying that ERP's are advertising their cringe ERP stuff public and in a loop? No matter what you do ingame you get confronted with it on a daily basis. MSQ, browising the Party Finder or just chatting with friends in limsa. You cant unsee it. FF14 is by far not a safe place for children even though its advertised as a 13+ game in most countries.
Someone telling your kid to "get cancer" in wow is by far not as bad as some h*rny cringelord cybergrooming your child.

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Originally Posted by caffe_macchiato

First, this isn't World of Warcraft which was (mostly) safe for teens. Final Fantasy XIV is a much more adult-oriented game where you will find tons of profanity, cybersex and women selling dirty pics. Your son will no doubt see a lot of things, mainly from older women, that he should not see until he is older. There are also men who may prey upon your son. Square Enix is very lax towards this sort of thing. If he plays on PC, there is a 90% chance that he will run into this material on the Crystal datacenter. Make sure he plays a MALE character (this is very important). Otherwise, God help you and your household.

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No its not, just because some ppl turn it into that. You still dont just walk into that unless you go into one of those "clubs" or mod the game to hell... we play 10ish years and barely scrapped that part of the game. And if hes on the internet, theres worse stuff easier to find.

And im playing a girl and a female Lala and i never got molested or anything, so dont scare them away from playing as they like lol


The only reason our girl doesnt play yet is that we dont have a 3rd device and she needs to improve her attention span/skill first.

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Are we now denying that ERP's are advertising their cringe ERP stuff public and in a loop? No matter what you do ingame you get confronted with it on a daily basis. MSQ, browising the Party Finder or just chatting with friends in limsa. You cant unsee it. FF14 is by far not a safe place for children even though its advertised as a 13+ game in most countries.
Someone telling your kid to "get cancer" in wow is by far not as bad as some h*rny cringelord cybergrooming your child.

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It's been a long time since I've seen shout spam that's explicit. PF listings can push it on occasion but it's still rare for them to say something explicit. Usually it's innuendo so players can infer what's meant.

So here are the things to consider:

What preteen would want to look at PF in the first place? PF is a goal-oriented tool and preteens rarely play in a goal-oriented fashion.

Even should the preteen choose to look at PF, how many are going to understand the innuendo in some of those listings? If they understand it, they've already been exposed in other places.

Finally in the OP's case the intent is for their child to play with them, not to play independently.

It's up to a parent to decide if their child is mature enough to play and if they will need supervision or can play independently. There are also the parental controls to enable as needed.

Trying to shelter a child from exposure to life's realities doesn't protect the child in the long run. Educating them about the danger and teaching them how to react so they stay safe is far more effective.

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Originally Posted by Kuroka

No its not, just because some ppl turn it into that. You still dont just walk into that unless you go into one of those "clubs" or mod the game to hell... we play 10ish years and barely scrapped that part of the game. And if hes on the internet, theres worse stuff easier to find.

And im playing a girl and a female Lala and i never got molested or anything, so dont scare them away from playing as they like lol


The only reason our girl doesnt play yet is that we dont have a 3rd device and she needs to improve her attention span/skill first.

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You appear to be on Shiva/Light. The problem is much worse on Crystal, and he said he wanted his son to play on that DC. There is open advertising of adult venues in public chat as well as public discussion of sex acts and drug use in certain areas like Balmung’s Ul’dah. The issue is when he could get into a “relationship” or other exploitative situation. Doing so could pose a significant legal liability for other players.

Then its even better when you can sue em out of existence lol

If they dont learn to behave its even better to use the opportunity - there are linkshells and whatever plugins they use and if they discuss such things openly, GMs should act if ppl report...

issues like that just got worse by all the mod players... just like with the stalking plugin, SE needs to put the hammer down and have legal consequences.

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You appear to be on Shiva/Light. The problem is much worse on Crystal, and he said he wanted his son to play on that DC. There is open advertising of adult venues in public chat as well as public discussion of sex acts and drug use in certain areas like Balmung’s Ul’dah. The issue is when he could get into a “relationship” or other exploitative situation. Doing so could pose a significant legal liability for other players.

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He's trying to make a character on Coeurl, not Balmung. And if it's bad enough to be reported on Balmung, report it. All of it. Especially if it is so extreme as to potentially pose legal liability for the players engaging in it. I guarantee this guy's kid is not the sole and only young person playing.

https://youtu.be/WcjShOalSTg?si=AA2_MbuRYpJZosBU

oohboy made a good video about this. If you still think FF14 is a safe place for children you should 100% watch it.

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Originally Posted by Jeeqbit

People are upfront and genuine, just not when it breaks the rules, like your example would. That example long slid past the GMs in WoW because they apparently didn't care enough about people being rude.

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*Cough* goldshire RP *cough* mare lamerorium edit mods- *COUGH*

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Originally Posted by YukioKobayashi

https://youtu.be/WcjShOalSTg?si=AA2_MbuRYpJZosBU

oohboy made a good video about this. If you still think FF14 is a safe place for children you should 100% watch it.

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The internet isn't a safe place for children. Parenting is required.

Have your child play Lala (spin off from ff11s Taru Taru. I don't get bothered by the darkside of FF. Infact I haven't since it began.

On topic, if your in a conjesyed server you have 4 choices:

1. You ask your child to make a character on a none congested server and you all pay to move to them.

2. You ask your child to make a character on your data centre and use the world travel feature (you lose access to retainers and a few other functions)

3. Wait till the server opens, but know the server your talking about that might take awhile.

4. All make new characters and run through MSQ together - if your child doesn't like it you go back to your original character

*jigsaw voice* the choice is yours ♡

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The internet isn't a safe place for children. Parenting is required.

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Yes, lets supervision childs 24/7 because its that easy.
Did you always had your parents sitting next to you while you were playing games? Because I know for a fact that I and many others didnt in our early teen age. No parent would expect this amount of degeneracy from an 13+ Online RPG. If there is a MMORPG that needs this 24/7 "parenting" its for sure only FF14 in 2025.

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Yes, lets supervision childs 24/7 because its that easy.
Did you always had your parents sitting next to you while you were playing games? Because I know for a fact that I and many others didnt in our early teen age. No parent would expect this amount of degeneracy from an 13+ Online RPG. If there is a MMORPG that needs this 24/7 "parenting" its for sure only FF14 in 2025.

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Babe this thread has spun from a parent asking how he can join his child in FF14 when the server they are on is congested to parenting a child online (GCBTW)

This parent has the input and all this really isn't needed. I don't care how you parent, I don't care how they parent. This comment is very silly and belongs on mums net.

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Originally Posted by YukioKobayashi

Yes, lets supervision childs 24/7 because its that easy.
Did you always had your parents sitting next to you while you were playing games? Because I know for a fact that I and many others didnt in our early teen age. No parent would expect this amount of degeneracy from an 13+ Online RPG. If there is a MMORPG that needs this 24/7 "parenting" its for sure only FF14 in 2025.

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Honey, when I was 13 the internet hadn't been invented yet. And yet by that age everyone was well aware of how sex worked, that "courtesans" existed, and that taking candy from strangers was a bad idea.

The "degeneracy" that you refer to is not something that appeals to me in the slightest. Equally, it is completely invisible to me because I play vanilla.

If a parent decides they do not wish their 13 year-old to play FFXIV, that is their decision. The game does make explicit or heavily implicit references to topics including prostitution, sex trafficking and r@pe. When a child is ready to be exposed to such themes varies between cultures and families.

But the parenting required here is simply to check your kid isn't modding, and to give them the same general warnings they should receive for using any form of social media. TikTok, IG, et al are a far greater risk than FFXIV.

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Originally Posted by DivineP

*Cough* goldshire RP *cough* mare lamerorium edit mods- *COUGH*

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...dont cough. REPORT the hell out of them, get them off our game, especially as they are shameless and dont even try to hide it.

Mare was the breaking point for me, it being this broad and open... its like having some middle aged dude selling drugs to kids on school grounds but we choose to ignore him as we dont buy em...

I don't know why the conversation has become about mods and the behavior some people engage in
If they have been playing since around 2013, especially on crystal, then surely they are already well aware

to answer the original question, you'd need to check the server status and whether it allows for the creation of new characters
there's a patch coming up so it might change then

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Originally Posted by jojarth

Thank you so much for your reply! I'll look into the world transfer, and if it doesn't suit what we are looking for, I'll just bite the bullet and pay for an account. As I understand it, we can get him on the server with the recruit a friend (hopefully that's right!)

Have a wonderful day.

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Or make him a character in same same data centre but different server.he can always travel to your server when required

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Originally Posted by YukioKobayashi

Are we now denying that ERP's are advertising their cringe ERP stuff public and in a loop? No matter what you do ingame you get confronted with it on a daily basis. MSQ, browising the Party Finder or just chatting with friends in limsa. You cant unsee it. FF14 is by far not a safe place for children even though its advertised as a 13+ game in most countries.
Someone telling your kid to "get cancer" in wow is by far not as bad as some h*rny cringelord cybergrooming your child.

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Nothing to do with thread at hand .take your trolling elsewhere

guys.... this parent's question was answered on the FIRST PAGE, there is no need repeating the same answers over and over as this does not need to be on the first page that bad.

also the extremely off topic change in discussion is.... gross, you are being gross that is the only i can put it. the kid's age was never mentioned but here you guys gather to act like a toddler is about to waddle into a night club all alone, while in reality this kid is most likely in his early teens and will be playing with his parent's/family/family friends, the seedy underbelly of this game is really not that in your face and the shout adds while annoying won't scar this kid for life, also this is a free trial account, no one mentioned will be looking at the PF anyway.

this is a parent who has played for years with his wife and is in an fc full of people he clearly trusts to be around his kid, he has had another child play the free trial before (again no age given, but clearly nothing went horribly wrong there) and now asked for help with a more technical issue... which again, was answered.

the kid will be playing with his parents (and other trusted adults), the parents most definitely helped make the account and will be supervising him as needed (it's an online game it's obvious to keep an eye out), they've already had another child of theirs play the game so they even got experience on this, they've both been playing for a really long time with their fc existing for almost as long, if the ERP scene was even remotely as bad as some of you act like the parents will be aware and in the end it's their kid to make a decision on if he can play this or not.

sorry for long post but the TLDR; the question asked has already been answered, some of you need to chill with your "ERP bad" crusade and lastly stop trying to parent for the parents, they know their kid, you don't.

OP you're in luck! Coeurl JUST became Standard as of a few minutes ago! I wish you and your kiddo all the fun playing together:D

Yes, it seems Coeurl can be transferred to or have characters made on it now.

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guys.... this parent's question was answered on the FIRST PAGE, there is no need repeating the same answers over and over as this does not need to be on the first page that bad.

also the extremely off topic change in discussion is.... gross, you are being gross that is the only i can put it. the kid's age was never mentioned but here you guys gather to act like a toddler is about to waddle into a night club all alone, while in reality this kid is most likely in his early teens and will be playing with his parent's/family/family friends, the seedy underbelly of this game is really not that in your face and the shout adds while annoying won't scar this kid for life, also this is a free trial account, no one mentioned will be looking at the PF anyway.

this is a parent who has played for years with his wife and is in an fc full of people he clearly trusts to be around his kid, he has had another child play the free trial before (again no age given, but clearly nothing went horribly wrong there) and now asked for help with a more technical issue... which again, was answered.

the kid will be playing with his parents (and other trusted adults), the parents most definitely helped make the account and will be supervising him as needed (it's an online game it's obvious to keep an eye out), they've already had another child of theirs play the game so they even got experience on this, they've both been playing for a really long time with their fc existing for almost as long, if the ERP scene was even remotely as bad as some of you act like the parents will be aware and in the end it's their kid to make a decision on if he can play this or not.

sorry for long post but the TLDR; the question asked has already been answered, some of you need to chill with your "ERP bad" crusade and lastly stop trying to parent for the parents, they know their kid, you don't.

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LOL, I was just scrolling through the replies on this, and I think this post was the best (of the posts that didn't answer the question) post I've seen. Thank you for the thoughtful response.

It is true, my kid's age wasn't mentioned here. I'm going to keep not mentioning it to allow imaginations run wild, but suffice it to say, none of the stuff that was mentioned in this forum would causing me grief if my kid saw it. Additionally, I trust he would know how to handle a situation that he isn't comfortable with, if one arose. Finally, I know that if he needed my help with a situation (not likely, but if he did), he would come to me or my wife for that help.

I do appriciate everyone's concern though. Although I may not agree with everyone here on how they present the information, it's nice to see everyone looking out for the younger players. It's just another reason why I love this community.

We did get his character created this morning, and he's looking forward to playing with his friends and family. Thank you all!

well i am glad it gave you a chuckle, it really took a bit of a strange turn despite how simple your initial post was haha.

and great it all worked out so your kid could play on the same world as you :D