I'm finding the Gilgamesh community to be ugly and vulgar, is there anywhere better?

I am a decent person who does not allow the status quo of anonymity to dull my compassion for others and this in turn subjects me to a great deal of negative attention because I refuse to adopt this vulgar and disgusting way to behave.

To the point, I am wondering if there are others out there like me who want better than to talk about perverted, disgusting things. Is there a place in this game's community where it is okay to be a nice person instead of a total and complete douchebag?

If you think your server has a nicer community, I'd like to hear about it, I am willing to bet I'm not the only decent man who plays this, at least, I hope I'm not.

Thanks very much for any kind/helpful replies.

No matter where you go you're going to find people talking about perverted things - even the nice people. The nice people will also say they're sorry if you're offended though. Brynhildr's pretty good for that in my circles, but it's also got it's fair share of jerks and potty mouths. There are probably nice ones on Gilgamesh too, they just either aren't speaking up or have turned of things like shout chat because they're tired of it too.

I find Courel passable. You get the occasional arse, but normally the community, at least publicly, such as in Mor Dhona shout chat (or whereever that will end up post HW) is pretty good. My FC is full of polite, adult people, so that is a plus. That said, it all depends on what you would call "perverted, disgusting". Sometimes profanity happens, or in my FC, crude humor, but its kept to a minimum.

Contact me ingame. We've built a friendly community in my fc and you are welcome to join us.

I'm rather unique in how I express myself and it gets picked at when all I am trying to do is befriend others and demonstrate my friendly nature through my choice of class (White Mage)

I get a lot of unenlightened ones implying that just because I have common decency that somehow makes me homosexual, as if being homosexual is a negative thing even though it's not and nor am I gay (I'm married with a baby daughter) just as an example.

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Originally Posted by Tenderheart

I'm rather unique in how I express myself and it gets picked at when all I am trying to do is befriend others and demonstrate my friendly nature through my choice of class (White Mage)

I get a lot of unenlightened ones implying that just because I have common decency that somehow makes me homosexual, as if being homosexual is a negative thing even though it's not and nor am I gay (I'm married with a baby daughter) just as an example.

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One of your problems seems to be that you are on one of the two biggest servers in the Aether datacenter. When a large enough group of jerks get together they start playing off each other the start causing problems for others. My suggestion would be to transfer to another smaller server.

There are plenty of nice people on Gilgamesh. I've gotten to know a pretty good-sized portion of the community in my year there and the vast majority of the people I've encountered are quite nice.

Are there some jerks there? Sure. There are also jerks on my other server (Balmung). There will be jerks anywhere you go because such is the nature of MMOs. The trick is to surround yourself with the nice people and simply ignore the not-so-nice ones, because they will always exist.

If you would like some friendly people to run things with, feel free to shoot me a tell if I'm online when you are. I've got lots of friends who are always happy to help others out if they need to run a dungeon or a trial.

gilg has a massive FC catered specifically for LGBT people called taint, i think? it has 500 members.
i know you arent gay, but im sure you can find people with common interests in that FC if fear of being treated like homosexual is your concern.

and im sure that FC accepts straigth people as well

There are lovely people on Gilgamesh and toxic people as well which is true of a big server in any game.

Stick to the people you like, learn to ignore the people you don't and eventually you will just get MMO callouses and learn to let those verbal assaults slide off you.

I came from WoW where I spent years on Moon Guard (the most hated server) and Illidan (the biggest server) and oh I can tell you stories...

But I wont.

What I am getting at is the problem is not unique to Gilgamesh.

Whatever you decide to do, though, please keep on keeping on. Don't let bullies get you down. We need more compassion in general on this internet of ours, not less.

I love generalizations! :D

I think my Server, Adamantoise to be very friendly.. We do have our douchebags like any other servers but Gilgamesh is also a HUGE server maybe you just need to find good people in your server? I cant say anything about your server since I have never went there.. Though I love Adamantoise's community as a whole.

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I'm rather unique in how I express myself and it gets picked at when all I am trying to do is befriend others and demonstrate my friendly nature through my choice of class (White Mage)

I get a lot of unenlightened ones implying that just because I have common decency that somehow makes me homosexual, as if being homosexual is a negative thing even though it's not and nor am I gay (I'm married with a baby daughter) just as an example.

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Have you considered you might come across as an entitled jerk to people? Who are you calling unenlightened? I play on Gilgamesh all the time, I don't know you and never met you in game, and just from your posts here I already don't want to spend any time talking to you. Maybe the problem is you and how you present yourself to people. I guarantee you will be harassed on every server you go to when you walk around thinking and talking like you're above everyone else.

If i may, Gilg has been a home to me twice now and i have not met a plethora of bad individuals at all - the occasional jerk here or there, but what server doesn't have that?

You come across to me as a "Better than everyone" kind of person just by reading your post.

Perhaps examples would better enlighten the situation given here..

You don't seem like you'd be fun to walk in the park yourself.
That 'Holier than thou' attitude won't get you anywhere.
Also you're generalizing people in Gilgamesh and my best friend plays there.

It depends on what you are talking about. If it's people being mean, that will happen on smaller servers since that tends to happen when people gather. If it's language or jokes though, then I might recommend some thicker skin or turn off chat in general.

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Have you considered you might come across as an entitled jerk to people? Who are you calling unenlightened? I play on Gilgamesh all the time, I don't know you and never met you in game, and just from your posts here I already don't want to spend any time talking to you...

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I am calling anyone who uses a sexual preference/disability (EX. "You're a retard.") in a negative way or as an insult as unenlightened. I am calling anyone who uses slander in response to someone just asking to meet people and befriend them as unenlightened. I most certainly do not feel entitled at all, nor am I a jerk. I am always as nice and as honest to people as I can be and I apologize if you think I came across otherwise. It was never my intention to imply I was better than anyone, only that I refuse to join the dregs of anonymity and if that makes me "holier-than-thou" I apologize for that as well.

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I find Courel passable. You get the occasional arse, but normally the community, at least publicly, such as in Mor Dhona shout chat (or whereever that will end up post HW) is pretty good. My FC is full of polite, adult people, so that is a plus. That said, it all depends on what you would call "perverted, disgusting". Sometimes profanity happens, or in my FC, crude humor, but its kept to a minimum.

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I can second this, I rarely see people being rude for no reason (except for the 3.0 hunts and trolls at the moment ) but for the most part if someone is being rude its always as a joke and in shout in Mor Dhona. My FC is the same way, were a friendly group who teases each other but never to a point I'd imagine we would drive anyone away.

I find Gilgamesh to be pretty friendly overall and with a diverse population from casual to hardcore, RPers and a sizeable lgbt community. You probably ended meeting an inconsiderate person(s), but that exists within every server.

Of course, I am not sure what it is you are doing to them that they'd say that to you.

I've been in the server for 1+years and in 3 FCs and none of them tolerated bigotry (sexism, racism, etc.)

Still, if you do decide to move out, Balmung seems pretty friendlier compared to Gilgamesh, IMO

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Originally Posted by Tenderheart

I am a decent person who does not allow the status quo of anonymity to dull my compassion for others and this in turn subjects me to a great deal of negative attention because I refuse to adopt this vulgar and disgusting way to behave.

To the point, I am wondering if there are others out there like me who want better than to talk about perverted, disgusting things. Is there a place in this game's community where it is okay to be a nice person instead of a total and complete douchebag?

If you think your server has a nicer community, I'd like to hear about it, I am willing to bet I'm not the only decent man who plays this, at least, I hope I'm not.

Thanks very much for any kind/helpful replies.

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Faerie has a very nice community please come join!

You're going to find this everywhere to varying degrees. You should see Limsa's chat on my server at times. It can get quite...interesting. If you want to get away from it you can always swap servers, though that isn't always an option for people depending on their situations. Short of moving, all you can really do is ignore it and move on with your day.

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You're going to find this everywhere to varying degrees. You should see Limsa's chat on my server at times. It can get quite...interesting. If you want to get away from it you can always swap servers, though that isn't always an option for people depending on their situations. Short of moving, all you can really do is ignore it and move on with your day.

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You fell for it.

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You fell for it.

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I totally agree. You should come to Cactaur. It's by far the best server in NA and probably best server in the world. Everyone on Cactaur is so nice, very little (E)RPing, none of those 18+ parties etc.

Everyone I know on Gilgamesh are just like super tryhard raiders and are generally snobs tbh fam. Very elitist server filled with raiders and wannabe raiders. I pug all the time and man it seems like worst are from Giglamesh I completely feel you, OP.

Alternatively if you're not a raider I would highly suggest Matues. Matues' is generally filled with very nice people especially in Ul'dah! When my alt was on there I used to get approach by a lot of very sociable people! Great server!

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I totally agree. You should come to Cactaur. It's by far the best server in NA and probably best server in the world. Everyone on Cactaur is so nice, very little (E)RPing, none of those 18+ parties etc.

Everyone I know on Gilgamesh are just like super tryhard raiders and are generally snobs tbh fam. Very elitist server filled with raiders and wannabe raiders. I pug all the time and man it seems like worst are from Giglamesh I completely feel you, OP.

Alternatively if you're not a raider I would highly suggest Matues. Matues' is generally filled with very nice people especially in Ul'dah! When my alt was on there I used to get approach by a lot of very sociable people! Great server!

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You fell for it to.

OP likely quit years ago...

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Originally Posted by Valkyrie_Lenneth

You fell for it to.

OP likely quit years ago...

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It's ok hopefully someone who's looking for a new server would stumble upon my post and get some value out of it

I've heard Balmung is always a colorful place to be. Mufufufu...

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Originally Posted by Tenderheart

I am a decent person who does not allow the status quo of anonymity to dull my compassion for others and this in turn subjects me to a great deal of negative attention because I refuse to adopt this vulgar and disgusting way to behave.

To the point, I am wondering if there are others out there like me who want better than to talk about perverted, disgusting things. Is there a place in this game's community where it is okay to be a nice person instead of a total and complete douchebag?

If you think your server has a nicer community, I'd like to hear about it, I am willing to bet I'm not the only decent man who plays this, at least, I hope I'm not.

Thanks very much for any kind/helpful replies.

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But I need to be sprayyyeeed

You could move to new jersey, hear its very nice there

Wait, trolled again with necro. Darn you titanwomen