Is it possible to put too much pressure on yourself?

I just do the best I can as myself:

No one else is paying my sub, so no one else deserves to be pleased by me.

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Take the advice of these nice people and have a break, as they have said before. A year long break helped me fix my issues with the game, might help with your issue. And wow, 15 hours in one sitting? I can't even do 4 without botching up some normal raid.

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Originally Posted by DevonEllwood

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Take the advice of these nice people and have a break, as they have said before. A year long break helped me fix my issues with the game, might help with your issue. And wow, 15 hours in one sitting? I can't even do 4 without botching up some normal raid.

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Yeah, I know... I'm just gonna have to shut up about this issue and just deal with it lol. Don't get me wrong, I don't spend all my time in ffxiv. But I do have weekends where nothing is going on, so I'll just play ffxiv till I need to do something else. This is one of my hobbies, believe it or not. I tend to spend hours on whatever I'm working on.

I'm iffy on the break, obviously. Static notwithstanding, I missed out on Monster Hunter and Pagos (though I hate it, I still wanted my relic) and I don't want to fall any further behind than I already am. Like I said, I should probably stop making these threads. Obviously people are sick of seeing them from me :P

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Originally Posted by KaivaC

Obviously people are sick of seeing them from me :P

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Personally it's not about being sick of seeing these threads from you but sick of feeling like the advice that's been offered is kind of pointless.

You've made a fair number of threads very similar to this one and in each one your premise is that you're bad (when you're not) and that it's hard to deal with the pressure of being bad (despite aforementioned lack if badness) and how to deal with all of that.

People have given some really good words of wisdom that can be summarized with "Your desire to improve is the most important thing, keep trying, don't get bogged down in comparing your own performance to that of others." and despite that being offered to you seemingly countless times by now... we're here again.

If I were a more cynical person (as many are) I would wonder if it was advice you were truly after since you sure seem to be not taking it when it's offered. I know it can be hard to accept these sort of reassurances from others but as someone who has played with you I can confirm that you are not giving yourself enough credit.

Either take a step back and relax about things or take a prolonged break from the game. Those are the options unless you want to be back here in a month with even less friendly replies.

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Originally Posted by KaivaC

Yeah, I know... I'm just gonna have to shut up about this issue and just deal with it lol. Don't get me wrong, I don't spend all my time in ffxiv. But I do have weekends where nothing is going on, so I'll just play ffxiv till I need to do something else. This is one of my hobbies, believe it or not. I tend to spend hours on whatever I'm working on.

I'm iffy on the break, obviously. Static notwithstanding, I missed out on Monster Hunter and Pagos (though I hate it, I still wanted my relic) and I don't want to fall any further behind than I already am. Like I said, I should probably stop making these threads. Obviously people are sick of seeing them from me :P

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No you didn't.. Rath is STILL here.. and he'll be here until the game dies. You can STILL jump on and get Rath. Don't believe the nonplayers who don't actually play the fu-king game. He's STILL here.

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Originally Posted by KaivaC

It took me a good number of days (obviously) to think about what has been said thus far, and to put together how to accurately explain myself without seeming like a brick wall not listening, or as an ungrateful jackass. The only way I can really accurately describe this is that when it comes to how I'm doing - I really only see things in terms of pass or fail, not in-between.

And yes, I will not deny that I tie my worth in-game to my logs. Not others, because when it comes to other players, I do indeed look past numbers when it comes to other players - for whatever reason, I just can't look past grey numbers for myself. Again, this is not to say that I am ignoring what others have said...it's more like, it's extremely difficult for me to comprehend.

If that makes any sense at all. Honestly, I dunno if it does.

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The only thing that can be agreed upon is that you are set in your ways and no amount of responses to any of your threads will ever change that. So...it's a wasted effort. As long as it makes sense to you that's what matters.

“I will not deny that I tie my worth in-game to my logs“..... just wow, you aren’t gonna be happy with that mindset.

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This is not to say that I am ignoring what others have said...it’s more like, it’s extremely hard for me to comprehend.

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Except, you are disregarding what everyone is saying. Because you continue to make threads—all with the same theme. It’s never-ending.

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The only thing that can be agreed upon is that you are set in your ways and no amount of responses to any of your threads will ever change that. So...it's a wasted effort.

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Honestly, this is really all there is left to say. The things being said in this thread have been said in each of the previous threads created by the OP. And, yet, the threads still continue as if nothing was said at all. So there really isn’t any point in saying anything more. I can’t waste the words on it anymore. Not when they’ll continue to be disregarded.

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Originally Posted by KaivaC

Having gotten involved in some discussions lately, I have to ask, is there such a thing as putting too much pressure on yourself? This started in another thread, but I didn't want to take away from current discussions, so here I am. Under my pen standards for myself, I'm averaging about 5.3k in damage as NIN on O9S with my static. I regard myself as a garbage player because of those numbers. My question is two fold.

Is it possible that I'm being too harsh on myself? (I have reason to believe that my numbers are bad made on other discussions I've been involved in on the forums)

The other question is, is it possible to put too much pressure on yourself, whether it's in casual or raiding content?

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Yes you are. I have the same problem. I know I'm too hard on myself and its ruining my enjoyment of the game and my motivation to get better in efficiently but I cant help it. But like me, you should never give up. becuase you WILL succeed eventually if you honestly keep trying. just as I will. Anyone can do any content they desire if they put in the work. Yes ultimate too. How do you think those players got where they are? hard work. they're not naturally any better than you or me.

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Originally Posted by KaivaC

Yet, they're pulling out about 1.5k or higher DPS than I am.

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I'd recommend to record a video of your raiding attempt (preferably with numbers) and then ask someone who is proficient in this job for an advice and suggestions.