Divorce...

Regardless of people's reasons for getting married, not having a simple in game system to dismantle some of the potential stalking mechanisms is a bit short sighted on SE's part.

Maybe a GM can assist?

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Originally Posted by EricCartmenez

An ulterior motive that seemed to backfire? I'm sure if you put in a ticket to explain the situation, there is the possibility that they might nullify the capabilities, but you can't refute the fact that you entered into this virtual pact for all the wrong reasons. The other person paid the fees (ed. traded real money for in game glamour items - within the boundaries of the rules of the game, since it was through the Mog Station) and you reaped the benefits. Other than all the stuff you got courtesy of this persons real money, there was only one thing that they could expect in the end - to teleport to you every 30 min. There's no shared gil, property, or items.

The reaction you are giving here is why they haven't made it so that an eternally bonded couple can't dip into each other's things. I'll be honest, I never thought about someone actually entering into the eternal bonding system for the sake of stuff like you did. Ugh.

[edited to add] I actually know someone in game who did stuff in real life for the sake of gil then regretted the outcome as well. I should be shocked by what you did, but knowing someone who promised nude photos in trade for gil... Well, I guess RMT pales in comparison. The lesson here isn't that SE needs to fix the divorce system, it's in the motivation that drives someone who wants a piece of glamour gear so bad that they are willing to take advantage of someone else to get it, then they don't want to suffer the consequences.

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As I said earlier, I am fine with my current situation because it was a friend that I married. He was cool with paying for the stuff because HE wanted it and wanted someone he knew to marry. I reap the benefits but again, that is not the point of my thread as many are misinterpreting or trolling.

I'll just quote myself from earlier what THE MAIN problem is about:

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Originally Posted by Saigwa

This problem has nothing to do with who, how, or why you married someone in game. This is not a problem Pre or post marriage. It is a problem POST DIVORCE. Taking all emotional reasoning out (since emotion is never good to use for reasoning) and utilizing logic, as I've stated before, this is not something that will be abused by the majority of individuals whom decide to divorce. However, we. are. human. There WILL be that one individual who is sour after a bad relationship. There WILL be that one individual who will use this flawed divorce function to harass said player - as these things happen in real life, it is more than possible in game.

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Originally Posted by Ametrine

We kept asking for it.
Despite the OP's individual situation, he has pointed out a loophole in the system. Yoshi-P stated that marriage was mostly for RP, but, in a practical gameplay sense, it allows you fast access to someone you should reasonably be frequently playing with, so that the teleport is useful, fluff aside.

I guess I empathize with OP a bit becuase I had a relationship go sour, and the only means of escape from his stalking was to jump servers and change my name, something others with an established group to play with may not want to have to do.

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O look, someone gets it. Thank god. It isn't about me. I don't care if my friend creeps on me- it is my friend. What I care about are people who have sour relationships and the fact that SE is basically making it EASIER for potential harassers to do their thing.

ETERNAL bond :)
Good luck buddy!

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Originally Posted by Noblewar

they shouldnt change it, maybe it'll open some eyes so people think twice before getting married in real life!

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Huh. MMO gamers get married in real life!?

One word - Blacklist. You blacklist and the person can't even look you up. That doesn't stop them from dropping by your home and if the door is 'unlocked' coming in, but that's it. They can't send you messages and they can't find you through a Player Search. Don't care if they can search? Go into busy mode. I do this all the time to stop those harassing "Buy gil cheap" advertisements. The one person who you quoted as empathizing had this harassment before, not after an in game marriage. Test the blacklist on your friend.

You have posted several times that you don't care and that it's your friend and it's ok, yet you removed the ring and wanted it to stop. Doesn't seem like a friend or friendship does it?

Regardless, in the immortal words of Nelson Muntz...

For those in that situation, Annul the marriage, don't just drop the ring. Also, marry someone else maybe. Crating a new Eternal bond may break the other. Someone needs to try that. Like can you be married to more that one person? Get married, drop your ring, do it again....

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Originally Posted by Synestr

For those in that situation, Annul the marriage, don't just drop the ring. Also, marry someone else maybe. Crating a new Eternal bond may break the other. Someone needs to try that. Like can you be married to more that one person? Get married, drop your ring, do it again....

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Yep, I looked it up, you can just annul the wedding with one of the NPC's up there. It might be Claribel. I think there might be a time limit so that people aren't just spamming weddings for whatever strange reason that they might. Actually, you have to do the annulment anyway to re-marry, so there's not point in taking on the added expense of proceeding with the 2nd marriage.

Can we all just take time to appreciate the bitter irony of how real this situation is

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Originally Posted by Synestr

Also, marry someone else maybe. Crating a new Eternal bond may break the other. Someone needs to try that. Like can you be married to more that one person? Get married, drop your ring, do it again....

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A little bit out of topic-ish. But I like polygamy. I hope SE would consider this.

You: Female?
Him: Male

Asks you to wed for fun and items. Was probably creepy before hand, now you finally notice he's creepy.

He paid $40 to stalk you, probably way cheaper than what people in real life have to pay.

A lot of people creep out when a female says something in a FC chat, my friends have seen it and I've seen it in the past. It always seems like friendly silly stuff but to a lot of onlookers the person is obviously being a creep.

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Originally Posted by Parodine

Regardless of people's reasons for getting married, not having a simple in game system to dismantle some of the potential stalking mechanisms is a bit short sighted on SE's part.

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No, the players overlooked it. Devs themselves said "Please try to use the system for it's intended purpose." It's marriage, it's intended to do with someone you don't mind being by your side. OP messed up when they realized they didn't want that person by their side.

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Originally Posted by NaliaBrown

Let me get this straight: Person A and Person B get married and get special rings that let them teleport to each other. Person A wants out of the marriage so he gets rid of the ring. Isn't the easy answer making Person B's ring non-functional once Person A's ring is discarded? No ring, no teleport, no problem. Yet another oversight with this whole eternal bond thing.

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I think if a character goes through a divorce they should lose all rewards the marriage gave. Intended purpose fufilled.