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12-29-2022, 03:32 AM
SlouchyBard

Glad to see that I am reaching my infertile-no-man-wants-me years. Lol. I exposed my ankle in public last week, it was scandalous.
12-29-2022, 03:39 AM
Renalt

I dunno. I could be with one woman forever and never pop the question just cause I don't like the idea of a traditional marriage. Of course I'm going to be upfront with that so they don't expect that it will be a thing someday when it will not. However when I'm committed I'm going to be all in. Just cause I didn't get it on paper doesn't mean anything to me. She'll be my wife to me.

"Love is not a whim. Love is not a flower that fades with a few fleeting years. Love is a choice wedded to action, and I choose you, and I will choose you every day for the rest of my life."

But this is also only speculation. I've not dated in years. Mostly because I didn't want to. Now mostly cause I forgot how to not be single. Who knows? Maybe it'll be like riding a bike and I just...pick the feelings back up.
12-29-2022, 03:41 AM
TheMightyMollusk

We only bothered with a wedding to get conservative in-laws off our backs about "living in sin". And then did it as cheaply as possible just to get it over with. A marriage certificate is a piece of paper; if the marriage isn't in your heart and soul, the paper is worthless.
12-29-2022, 03:42 AM
SlouchyBard

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Originally Posted by Renalt

I dunno. I could be with one woman forever and never pop the question just cause I don't like the idea of a traditional marriage. Of course I'm going to be upfront with that so they don't expect that it will be a thing someday when it will not. However when I'm committed I'm going to be all in. Just cause I didn't get it on paper doesn't mean anything to me. She'll be my wife to me.

I have the same mindset. Why should a piece of paper dictate how you feel for someone.

Plus screw traditional. Only wedding worthy is when jaws pops out of the water.
12-29-2022, 08:04 AM
SassyAssassin

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Originally Posted by Renalt

I dunno. I could be with one woman forever and never pop the question just cause I don't like the idea of a traditional marriage. Of course I'm going to be upfront with that so they don't expect that it will be a thing someday when it will not. However when I'm committed I'm going to be all in. Just cause I didn't get it on paper doesn't mean anything to me. She'll be my wife to me.

"Love is not a whim. Love is not a flower that fades with a few fleeting years. Love is a choice wedded to action, and I choose you, and I will choose you every day for the rest of my life."

But this is also only speculation. I've not dated in years. Mostly because I didn't want to. Now mostly cause I forgot how to not be single. Who knows? Maybe it'll be like riding a bike and I just...pick the feelings back up.

Completely agree, its not a piece of paper or a ring that will make people be exclusive or actually stay in love.
12-29-2022, 08:37 AM
Boblawblah

It's never weird to want to love and be loved.
12-29-2022, 08:45 AM
Naoki34

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Originally Posted by Velvet_Lunarfang

I seem to see people treat this game a online dating service. Kind of weird to use a video game to establish a relationship. Is this weird? Especially if the LDR ends up being half a world away?

There were already people who met and married on Diablo 1, why is that surprising?

It happens, but also a lot of scamming.
12-29-2022, 12:02 PM
WP1990

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Originally Posted by Renalt

I dunno. I could be with one woman forever and never pop the question just cause I don't like the idea of a traditional marriage. Of course I'm going to be upfront with that so they don't expect that it will be a thing someday when it will not. However when I'm committed I'm going to be all in. Just cause I didn't get it on paper doesn't mean anything to me. She'll be my wife to me.

Marriage at the end of the day now is merely a contract with the state now. At least in the west. Any man with logical sense who does their research will wholly understand it is NOT in their favor whatsoever to ever get married in the west. Ladies you're awesome and I know some of you out there are an absolute pleasure to be around. But we didn't make the laws. They were voted in by our legislators that we did or did not vote in. Sensible men now protect their hard-earned wealth and avoid the clear obvious risks of marriage by simply not marrying.

But as Renalt said. You never need a piece of paper to justify your attraction and companionship towards your significant other. I agree with this 100% As I have been in many long-term relationships with great women, and they know full well I will never marry. It just comes down to mutual respect for each other's decisions which is one of the vital pillars for any healthy relationship.

Also, 100% am for finding someone in a game if you both have great chemistry. Birds of a feather flock together. Same goes for people drinking themselves into a stupor at a bar who skipped out on AA the past night because their Grandma was ran over by Rudolph because Santa mixed some extra spice in his hot cocoa which caused his sled to crash on the freeway during Christmas morning which led to the craziest back up in traffic in history.

Oh, or the church couple who has a premonition that the world was going to end, and the only solution was to go blind reading some book about how to be a decent human being on top of an alter at the break of dawn when a giant meteor was about to hit earth and the priest kept telling everyone NOT TO LOOK UP or they all would go to ****.
12-29-2022, 06:11 PM
Ranaku

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Originally Posted by Velvet_Lunarfang

I seem to see people treat this game a online dating service. Kind of weird to use a video game to establish a relationship. Is this weird? Especially if the LDR ends up being half a world away?

In my opinion it is a good thing that people form relationships over the internet nowdays. Back then you could only find love or friendship in basically your own town. Which i guess lead to a bunch of really unhappy marriages etc. that were formed out of parental pressure or convenience not cause you had something in common with the person you would marry or "love".

Nowdays people can find easily other people who share their interests, who maybe likes games or movies or whatever interests you as much as you do. Which leads to a more stable and healthy relationship cause there is common ground besides just the kids binding a already broken couple together.

Matter of fact is that people treat all multiplayer games and social media often too as a place to find relationships. Be it friends or a partner. Cause well humans are, mostly, social creatures always out for that. The internet gives you a great tool of accessibility to people you could never even have met if the internet wouldn't exist.

Last point, who cares? It's nobody's business what others do. Keep your nose where it belongs. It's far more weird to stick your nose into other peoples business, things that don't even affect you in the slightest. Next time before you question others, try some self reflection and question yourself first.
12-30-2022, 12:45 AM
kevin_satron

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Originally Posted by Alec97

Please just go in for a shower and then head to a bar or get a dog and meet some people. Just say hello and take it from there. Even if you aren't religious, try picking up people in a church, you go for five weeks every Sunday, and those old timers will try and set you up with their daughter or son. If you are gay, don't worry. Half the attendees are probably in the closest as well.

who hurt you?
12-30-2022, 07:24 AM
Midareyukki

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Originally Posted by kevin_satron

who hurt you?

I sure as hell hope the answer isn't "Priest"...
12-30-2022, 07:43 AM
ameliaw

I just wish it was easier to make friends around my age ingame. I don't really find it creepy or weird to online date, its kinda cute even, but not only it isn't my thing but I also don't understand how people manage to do it.
12-30-2022, 07:50 AM
Renalt

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Originally Posted by ameliaw

I just wish it was easier to make friends around my age ingame. I don't really find it creepy or weird to online date, its kinda cute even, but not only it isn't my thing but I also don't understand how people manage to do it.

It just requires two people to be open and honest with each other and be on the same page. There are a lot of factors and can be quite difficult but when it works...it seems to work really well.
12-30-2022, 08:40 AM
WP1990

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Originally Posted by ameliaw

I just wish it was easier to make friends around my age ingame. I don't really find it creepy or weird to online date, its kinda cute even, but not only it isn't my thing but I also don't understand how people manage to do it.

My FC on Goblin mainly comprises of 30 YO+ members if that helps anything.
12-30-2022, 08:44 AM
ameliaw

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Originally Posted by WP1990

My FC on Goblin mainly comprises of 30 YO+ members if that helps anything.

Most guilds are compromised of 30 yo in my experience, I'm in my early 20's and most FCs I had participated in my server were like this. Perhaps it was just bad luck.
12-30-2022, 09:22 AM
WP1990

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Originally Posted by ameliaw

Most guilds are compromised of 30 yo in my experience, I'm in my early 20's and most FCs I had participated in my server were like this. Perhaps it was just bad luck.

Ah, yeah, I don't know what else to say in regard to that. I guess, as long as you're putting yourself out into the world and you know what you are looking for it's only a matter of time before you find what you're looking for.
12-30-2022, 09:32 AM
Tehmon

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Originally Posted by ameliaw

Most guilds are compromised of 30 yo in my experience, I'm in my early 20's and most FCs I had participated in my server were like this. Perhaps it was just bad luck.

I think a big portion of MMORPGs' audiences are on the older side since they grew up during the height of the genre's popularity and cultural significance, thus having an easier time getting into other MMORPGs. The same could be said about Final Fantasy in general, which had its golden age in the 90s/early 2000s. Most people you will find actively playing the game day in day out and forming FCs would probably be slightly older than what you'd find in other online multiplayer games outside of the MMORPG genre, but this is just a hunch.

Can't say that these days there is much difference between people in their 20s and 30s though, but I can understand wanting to hang with younger people/people closer to your own age.
12-30-2022, 09:44 AM
WP1990

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Originally Posted by Tehmon

I think a big portion of MMORPGs' audiences are on the older side since they grew up during the height of the genre's popularity and cultural significance, thus having an easier time getting into other MMORPGs. The same could be said about Final Fantasy in general, which had its golden age in the 90s/early 2000s. Most people you will find actively playing the game day in day out and forming FCs would probably be slightly older than what you'd find in other online multiplayer games outside of the MMORPG genre, but this is just a hunch.

Can't say that these days there is much difference between people in their 20s and 30s though, but I can understand wanting to hang with younger people/people closer to your own age.

You are fairly spot on with your hunch. The data for the most part indicates that as well. At least the mean of players in MMO's are in the late 20's early 30's range.
12-30-2022, 10:48 AM
TheMightyMollusk

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Originally Posted by Renalt

It just requires two people to be open and honest with each other and be on the same page. There are a lot of factors and can be quite difficult but when it works...it seems to work really well.

I met my spouse online through an AIM RP group and we've been together for 18 years and married 13. It ain't easy, but it can work.
12-30-2022, 10:50 AM
Renalt

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Originally Posted by TheMightyMollusk

I met my spouse online through an AIM RP group and we've been together for 18 years and married 13. It ain't easy, but it can work.

I'm actually very happy for both of you. Has me holding on to the hope that it could happen to me one day.
12-31-2022, 04:15 AM
SlouchyBard

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Originally Posted by Tehmon

Can't say that these days there is much difference between people in their 20s and 30s though, but I can understand wanting to hang with younger people/people closer to your own age.

Oh boy. I'm 30, there said it lol. The other game I play, I am one of the oldest people on my server and everyone else is in their early to late 20's. There is a huge difference. I could go into details but that would be a Macbeth size post.
12-31-2022, 07:18 AM
TheMightyMollusk

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Originally Posted by Renalt

I'm actually very happy for both of you. Has me holding on to the hope that it could happen to me one day.

I'm rooting for you, brother.
12-31-2022, 07:25 AM
SassyAssassin

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Originally Posted by SlouchyBard

Oh boy. I'm 30, there said it lol. The other game I play, I am one of the oldest people on my server and everyone else is in their early to late 20's. There is a huge difference. I could go into details but that would be a Macbeth size post.

Late twenties here, I always assumed we’d have way more 15 to 20ish players in ffxiv than anything else xD
12-31-2022, 12:18 PM
Renalt

I'm in my late 30s but I'm big on the "As young as you feel". If I had to put a number how I feel? About 20.
12-31-2022, 12:50 PM
SassyAssassin

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Originally Posted by Renalt

I'm in my late 30s but I'm big on the "As young as you feel". If I had to put a number how I feel? About 20.

I feel somewhere around 10 or 100. One moment I laugh at fart jokes, another moment I yell at kids to get off my lawn.
12-31-2022, 01:07 PM
Renalt

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Originally Posted by SassyAssassin

I feel somewhere around 10 or 100. One moment I laugh at fart jokes, another moment I yell at kids to get off my lawn.

Oh I know what you mean. I know for one I'm not looking forward to the day where I feel like 20 and then the next...200.

But hey if I reach 200 do you think they would let me audition to be the next Crypt Keeper? Man I miss that show.
12-31-2022, 03:09 PM
SlouchyBard

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Originally Posted by Renalt

I'm in my late 30s but I'm big on the "As young as you feel". If I had to put a number how I feel? About 20.

Can we trade? Some days I feel like I am in my late 40's and others I feel like I'm 18 again l. Haha

And SassyAssassin, yeah, I figured it was more college age and above. More so due to the fact that when I started I had no idea about the free trial.
12-31-2022, 03:58 PM
TheMightyMollusk

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Originally Posted by SassyAssassin

I feel somewhere around 10 or 100. One moment I laugh at fart jokes, another moment I yell at kids to get off my lawn.

I fart at kids to get them off my lawn. But then the farts throw my back out and I have to sit down for a while.
12-31-2022, 10:00 PM
SassyAssassin

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Originally Posted by TheMightyMollusk

I fart at kids to get them off my lawn. But then the farts throw my back out and I have to sit down for a while.

I like that. Use their methods against them, next time I see a kid, Im farting in his face, doesn’t necessarily need to be on my lawn.

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Originally Posted by Renalt

Oh I know what you mean. I know for one I'm not looking forward to the day where I feel like 20 and then the next...200.

But hey if I reach 200 do you think they would let me audition to be the next Crypt Keeper? Man I miss that show.

At 200 you might look like that so if they don’t hire you, they’re missing out!
01-01-2023, 03:13 AM
Renalt

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Originally Posted by TheMightyMollusk

I fart at kids to get them off my lawn. But then the farts throw my back out and I have to sit down for a while.

Ok I did a snort laugh on that one. Thanks for that.

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Originally Posted by SassyAssassin

I like that. Use their methods against them, next time I see a kid, Im farting in his face, doesn’t necessarily need to be on my lawn.

At 200 you might look like that so if they don’t hire you, they’re missing out!

I think I'll need to work on my Pun Game though. Crypt Keeper is all about them puns.
05-03-2023, 03:18 PM
Renalt

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05-03-2023, 03:28 PM
Zeastria

For many their only option for human-interaction is through the internet.
Like online games,social media and apps.
05-03-2023, 05:30 PM
Elynole

The first person I ever dated I met in an MMO. We were both in uni, played a lot of games to pass the time, and lived across the country from each other. It happened to turn out that when she graduated she had a job offer in the city that I lived in.

We dated for a few years, amicably split when our work took us in two different directions, and have remained great friends for over 15 years now - attending each other's weddings, watching our kids grow up, etc.

Not really weird at all - same as finding someone through any other social activity.
05-03-2023, 05:31 PM
Carin-Eri

I don't see anything weird about it at all. I have friends who met through the game and have since met up IRL and started dating.
05-03-2023, 10:17 PM
Ghutts

Whether it's through this game, or someone you met at bowling night, or you're writing love letters to psycho's on Death Row, if you find someone you enjoy being around then to hell with what anyone else thinks.
05-03-2023, 10:47 PM
Boblawblah

I've always thought it was weird finding dates at a bar instead of somewhere you could find people with common interests. Also, this is how you necro, at least I can read a couple of funny comments.
05-04-2023, 09:31 AM
Renalt

Yeah I agree. If into dating it would just make sense to look in areas of your interest for someone who will have similar interests.
05-04-2023, 11:24 AM
VeyaAkemi

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Originally Posted by Renalt

Yeah I agree. If into dating it would just make sense to look in areas of your interest for someone who will have similar interests.

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06-08-2023, 06:59 PM
Renalt

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Originally Posted by UltraPrimarch

Anybody got some super good drama threads to necro? Let's at least necro on some aged matured full-bodied drama.

https://i.ibb.co/LpM0C7L/rise.jpg

Might get some here...
06-08-2023, 07:20 PM
UltraPrimarch

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Originally Posted by Renalt

Might get some here...

Nice! This is only mildly dramatic but it is still an endless debate with implacable opponents on both sides.

I have posted on a "dating" thread.

I'm always looking for friends and maybe even romance in the game. I found it once back in 2014 or so. It was thoroughly enjoyable--that is until she was caught be her husband and she didn't have permission. It lasted about 4 months and it made the time fly. Fantasies abound in Eorzea and I see no reason that can't include some irl or just in-game romance.

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