FFXIV Girls only discord server

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Originally Posted by ArkenaeuxBelmont

Then can you please explain the two tweet threads that were posted 2 posts after the OP of this thread?

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Originally Posted by KohanaAbarai

Those posts are a huge misrepresentation of what we stand for. They are taken entirely out of context as well. Instead of anyone even trying to educate us, what happened was they got pissed off, left and made a whole new story up to shame us for no reason. Again these lies are fabricated. Similar to how the media spews opinions and changes context. Believe what you want we won't budge! The fact is we are being crucified by cancel culture because they refuse to talk things out and educate.. they just want to END things that don't make them happy. All this trouble is unnecessary and a giant waste of everyone's time.. All I ask is for those who don't want to be in this group to go find something else already because all this information still circling is invalid.

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Can you just answer ArkenaeuxBelmont's question instead of waffling on. You're being vague in your answers and this is why people don't believe you.

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Originally Posted by KohanaAbarai

Those posts are a huge misrepresentation of what we stand for. They are taken entirely out of context as well. Instead of anyone even trying to educate us, what happened was they got pissed off, left and made a whole new story up to shame us for no reason. Again these lies are fabricated. Similar to how the media spews opinions and changes context. Believe what you want we won't budge! The fact is we are being crucified by cancel culture because they refuse to talk things out and educate.. they just want to END things that don't make them happy. All this trouble is unnecessary and a giant waste of everyone's time.. All I ask is for those who don't want to be in this group to go find something else already because all this information still circling is invalid.

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Ngl, the first things Abusers do is make it seem like people are spreading misinformation to discredit the victim, then they have multiple people go out their way to defend the abusers so they look like victims. Then they actively get mad when asked if you can show proof that the abusers are in fact victims, and to prove they they were being shamed. Most people who have power Trips on top of that also will do whatever it takes to avoid losing said power. Including lie, and spread misinformation to counter the proof.

So if all of you are innocent. Just post the pics showing full context, the DMs are there for ever, and it can show that you guys are innocent and the person who posted the other screens are lying. Or you can not show us and deal witht he fact that people will tell others for their own protection to stay away so minors arent groomed and innocent girls aren't abused. Females are abused at an alarming rate in the XIV community. Can you really blame people for wanting to keep their friends, GFs, sisters,etc safe from this kinda thing? ANd you said you manage the server. YOU have direct access to proof that you're all innocent, why not post it then?

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Originally Posted by KohanaAbarai

And you are?

In a court of law everything you all are stating is slander. Anything that can remotely cause hinderance to growth is Slander and accusations.. so I ask again, who are you? Are you an ex community member? Are you just a disgruntled cancel culture person? or some basement goblin looking to continually troll this community? Please Explain your stance because I honestly cannot understand why you continue even bother??? IT'S A VOLUNTEER COMMUNITY...

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You seen it here everyone. This is a community member of the “girls only discord server”. They claim to be an important member, as they do audits. A higher person in this community.
Does this angry, hateful, argumentive person represent “a safe space”? I think the answer is a clear NO.
If drama, hate, grooming and being spiteful are your thing; then this is the community for you. Otherwise, avoid for the betterment of your own mental and emotional well being

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Originally Posted by KohanaAbarai

I know exactly whats going on there so if your screen shots mean nothing because they are from a community that is not what we represent and they are being used to miscontrude what our message is into a mesage of hatred. So please spare me your big words. Get on with your mediocre angry hateful life please.

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Honestly, after reading this thread for a while, you are the primary perpetrator of spewing hatred.

Just because an experience may not have been akin to yours does not make it any less true. It just doesn't make it your experience. And to try and immediately shut down conversation that brings to light that your community isn't as much of a "safe space" as you so claim is refusing to have any sort of discussion about potential foul play going on. So, are you not doing exactly what you are claiming others are doing?

Seems to me like you're the one leading a "mediocre, angry, hateful life".

Grooming of a 14 year old... Jesus

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Originally Posted by KohanaAbarai

Those posts are a huge misrepresentation of what we stand for. They are taken entirely out of context as well. Instead of anyone even trying to educate us, what happened was they got pissed off, left and made a whole new story up to shame us for no reason. Again these lies are fabricated. Similar to how the media spews opinions and changes context. Believe what you want we won't budge! The fact is we are being crucified by cancel culture because they refuse to talk things out and educate.. they just want to END things that don't make them happy. All this trouble is unnecessary and a giant waste of everyone's time.. All I ask is for those who don't want to be in this group to go find something else already because all this information still circling is invalid.

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Like I'm a girl, can you 100% assure me that I'd be safe joining this server? I've been abused, can you make me believe that I can trust the people in this server to not hurt me and harm me and use me like I'm some toy? I'm asking an honest question.

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Originally Posted by Aelin_Ashryver

what it is clearly there for is to avoid males who can be bad and problematic :) Not all of them, just those nasty few who can make your life unpleasant. Women know all to well how nasty and venomous other women can be. But when you specifically join a community meant to be a sanctuary you are going in with support for yourself and others in mind.

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So we agree that some males are problematic while many others are not, and we agree that women can be venomous. In other words, you are going to find bad people everywhere. This does not concur with the deceitful claim that removing males altogether is going to make a place "safe".

I believe this is merely a server for people who have personal issues against boys, which is actually okay with me so long as they don't generalise in such a manner.

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Originally Posted by Aelin_Ashryver

Sorry, if you take it as an insult then maybe you are one such male who cannot be decent to women? Because if you are just a normal dude who minds his own business I hardly see what the problem is.

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I'm a girl. I just can't stand displays of gratuitous disdain against my male friends.

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Originally Posted by Skivvy

As a female, I don't think there is an issue with the concept of having a separate Discord group for females only, even with the wording of it being a "safe space, free of harassment". I don't think this automatically means that they think males are bad or problematic and females are all good.

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Ah, for the record, I don't have any issue with people wanting to make specific groups either. In fact, I understand the feeling of wanting to be with people who are like-minded. My problem was the way it was advertised, for it was less about wanting like-minded people and more about making a point of how "unsafe" men are.

(Last but not least, please excuse my English).

I'd like to know what's being done about minors in this "safe space."..... this is concerning to me.

https://twitter.com/Celeste_Orchana/...95290769584129

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Originally Posted by KohanaAbarai

At this point in time, my team will not be responding to this thread any further. We have dedicated enough time and spoke on our part. If these false accusation continue to fester, that's on you not us. We've been growing and changing and learning and continuing to up our security. The fact that you all continue to bash us makes no sense other than that some one is bitter and petty. We've done our part, just move on because it's a volunteer community.. if you don't want to be apart of it don't but don't manipulate others from checking out and judging for yourself... that's just wrong.

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That is entirely your right.

That however also opens you up to the valid criticism of people who, when looking to form their own judgement and opinion, use the evidence then available to them to form it. Without offering a defense that is tangible, that is the price you must pay.

That is negative PR, and is how a community gets a negative branding associated with it.

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Originally Posted by strawberrycake

Like I'm a girl, can you 100% assure me that I'd be safe joining this server? I've been abused, can you make me believe that I can trust the people in this server to not hurt me and harm me and use me like I'm some toy? I'm asking an honest question.

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I'm pretty sure the answer is "no", just like in any other place on the internet or even in real life.