Technically it isn't really cheating if your IRL girlfriend/wife decides to marry someone else in-game.
Because by that point, the relationship is already over.
Technically it isn't really cheating if your IRL girlfriend/wife decides to marry someone else in-game.
Because by that point, the relationship is already over.
As I said, it's just a matter of perspective and caring about your partner being happy. If he wanted to date someone else (which I have offered to him multiple times) then I'd be happy to let him have that. He chooses to still stay with me because of how he feels about me. My happiness is ultimately what matters to him and having me in his life matters more than just having me to himself and me being miserable.
For the record, I'm also demisexual which is a form of asexuality, so I don't place sex as a high priority in my life. So, maybe others wouldn't be able to resist but for me being in love is an emotional experience rather than a sexual one. I get more fulfillment from having a conversation full of affection rather than having someone be inside of me.
It's okay if you don't get it or see how it could work. That's fine, you don't have to. It's just what works for me and those in my life choose to stay. Could he or I change our minds at some point? Of course. It's a reality that we both have accepted.
As far as cultural differences, all I can really speak on is that I find it to be more accepted here, especially in the past two years. Before I even considered this lifestyle, I found myself finding more people (in FCs, media, etc.) that were engaged in it.
My previous post will answer some of that.
As far as the other, it's just something my online partner accepts out of respect for my irl and out of respect for me. Does he wish it was different? Of course. But I matter more than that and having me in his life matters more than being able to sleep with me.
Well this is a sad thread.
And that's fine if you view it that way and your relationships don't have to mimic my own. Just, it is what it is with mine and the people in my life are accepting of it and still choose to be with me instead of seeking something different. In my eyes, that's all that matters. If it ever changes where one or both want to, then I'd let them go because them being happy is what matters to me. Will it hurt? Absolutely, but it's not my place to hold anyone hostage if they want to leave. As I said, I've offered outs to both and they both would rather stay. Could my feelings change in the future to where I could only want one? Yes. They still would rather stay.
I'm probably not going to answer any further questions on it, just was giving my perspective and I think what I've said already is all that I can really say on it. Wish everyone a lovely day. c:
Obviously, the people who are OK with it are the ones doing it themselves.
HOWEVER, I bet you they wouldn't be OK with their actual IRL partner doing it to them. That's the worst part about this whole situation. I've seen this type of hypocrisy happen in open relationships. It's no different here.
Wait, are we talking about marriage in-game or having an actual relationship with someone in-game?
If the latter, uh...why not get your gf/wife in real life to play with you? If not, sexting is an option. The pixels in this game, mods or not, aren't that titillating.
Obviously i dont know you or them, but since you know they want more out of it there there is a good chance they just stay around in hoping you break up and them having a chance, and if they ever find a different opportunity to engage in a relationship theyll drop your ingame marriage.
I'm assuming that it's not about the marriage. It's not even about the pixels! I can't believe I'm having to explain this.
Having someone you're close with in-game, that you interact with in a flirty way, and have an emotional connection with, while being in a relationship with someone IRL, is cheating. Hell, it wouldn't even need to happen in-game! Just a normal chat platform like Discord would be enough.
I feel like people who think it's OK either don't actually care about their relationship all that much, or they think it's only OK if they're the ones who are doing it.
Yeah, it's essentially having another relationship with someone, long-distanced.
I'm not afraid to admit that I would be very upset if my partner was talking to someone in that way. Like, I'm right here if you need affection.
If I can't offer that to them anymore, or vise versa, then I'd rather we talk about it. If that doesn't work, then the next best option is to end the relationship.
To offer another perspective:
I'm not demisexual so physical and emotional intimacy have an equally high priority for me in a relationship. I need both from the person I love and my husband would be insulted and hurt if I tried to get either from another man. For you emotional experiences matter the most. Why, then, is your irl man ok with you sharing the thing that gives you the most satisfaction with someone who isn't him? And knowing that being with him makes you miserable? I can only imagine the look on my husband's face if I told him those two things and how painful it would be for me to have caused it. When someone is ok being second priority I wonder if that's because he/she has never been anyone's first priority.
It for sure is by definition, but if the people involved know about everything and are consenting then it is what it is. That's their business xD
I agree with this sentiment here. I don't think its healthy at all either, but those couples in that situation can experience that themselves
This feels like a backdoor way of asking "Is ERP cheating."
Holy mother of oversharing.
.... ::: pause as TMM runs off to Wikipedia:::
Huh, so that's what it's called. Going by that link, I guess I'm a sex-indifferent demisexual. Learn something new every day.
No it isn't. It's impossible to cheat on someone with someone in-game as the in-game universe is completely separate. The universe of Final Fantasy 14 is an enthralling one where reality fades away and you can get lost inside for hours quite easily. Having a significant other in the game is so different compared to having a significant other in real life and there is no harm in having both types of relationships.
You're gonna find yourself alone some day if you don't at least inform your partner that you have another person, video game or not. It should be entirely their choice whether or not they're comfortable staying with you while you are spending time with someone else.
Also, life update for anyone who cares: Still have both partners in my life and all is well.
The people behind the characters are real. Say all you want about the game being a separate universe, or fictional, ect. But both people are real enough on the other side of the screen. It'd be like talking over the phone except replace phone with computer. Calling it just pixels is just disingenuous.
solid necro ngl i chuckled
I mean all is well for you. In your story, you are clearly the only person getting what they want. Again, they too are consenting adults, so their suffering is their own fault and not yours. However, the power of simping is strong. Those 2 will hold out for a long time for their hopeless endeavors lmao
Thank you for your input. c:
If they ever aren't happy they're free to leave with my blessing since my ultimate care is for their wellbeing. They're both aware of this. That's all I can say about it.
Tbh though, I wouldn't want a "simp" in my life, that's pretty boring. I do have standards and can pay my own bills just fine lol.
some of you are way too open sharing information about yourselves on here