Have people let go of the "Gjallahorn/Daurdabla only" BRD demand for Delve yet?

[Daemon]

The thing people don't realize? Leaders that don't know you and whether or not you are skilled doesn't matter. They have to make a quick judgement and the gear you own pretty much tells them that story of how responsible you are. When they ask do you have REM? They know these items take time to earn. And that only says "ok this guy knows what he is doing." If he can spend all that time to earn an REM then he definitely isn't one of those FC to 99 in half a day.

If he has AF3 then at least he took the time to earn those gears therefore at least I can rely on him.

It's just quicker to ask do you have DREM than give you a straight up interview.

[kylani]

Personally bard is not my main, and its not even geared properly but because we couldnt find no bards, i was asked by the leader in private to join gimped. No one else knew. he didnt care but others did after i joined.

It is embarrassing when you show up as a gimp bard or any job. I've done it. Songs wear off too fast. People asking where is your Emp harp? Don't have gear? No 3 songs? Why do we have this person to begin with. And all you can do is feel embarassed.

Which is if I was leading the group, I wouldn't care. As long as we have fun. But not everyone thinks that way because winning is what they play the event for.

I've seen people disband after 1 mistake because they predict there's no possible way to recover only to assume they'd be wasting time. And everyone has to be on point.

Tanking mata vs the amount of time vs other bosses before reaching Tojil. There's just not enough time to waste.

Biggest fear every party leader has is that. The fear of the entire group falling apart because you didn't set it up right.

This is so sad. It's a game. Party leaders need to be afraid they'll be judged, so they must follow a cookie cutter approach? I've played with folks who have delve gear, twilight, etc, and they still have no clue how to play their job.

I've played this game for years, and probably will for years to come, but I hope I quit long before I start judging others based on gear like this. Some of the best moments I had came from taking a group of friends who didn't have the perfect cookie cutter jobs for a fight, and working together and finishing it. We were told we 'couldn't' do some prommie fights with our group, and we had the best time proving otherwise. I joined many parties that seemed doomed initially, that turned around as we figured out what's wrong and worked together to fix it.

Sometimes the 'horrible' experiences turn into the fondest memories later on. It seems like this for some folks, ffxi is less about enjoying a game with others and more about having a spreadsheet of what you want folks in your party to have. I'm glad I've found people who enjoy the game and make it fun to work together to get gear or just accomplish goals we want and laugh trying vs rushing to get the best gear the game has to offer so you can then complain there is nothing to do. The game is great. Some of the elitist people, not so much.

[Daemon]

This is so sad. It's a game. Party leaders need to be afraid they'll be judged, so they must follow a cookie cutter approach? I've played with folks who have delve gear, twilight, etc, and they still have no clue how to play their job.

I've played this game for years, and probably will for years to come, but I hope I quit long before I start judging others based on gear like this. Some of the best moments I had came from taking a group of friends who didn't have the perfect cookie cutter jobs for a fight, and working together and finishing it. We were told we 'couldn't' do some prommie fights with our group, and we had the best time proving otherwise. I joined many parties that seemed doomed initially, that turned around as we figured out what's wrong and worked together to fix it.

Sometimes the 'horrible' experiences turn into the fondest memories later on. It seems like this for some folks, ffxi is less about enjoying a game with others and more about having a spreadsheet of what you want folks in your party to have. I'm glad I've found people who enjoy the game and make it fun to work together to get gear or just accomplish goals we want and laugh trying vs rushing to get the best gear the game has to offer so you can then complain there is nothing to do. The game is great. Some of the elitist people, not so much.

When people stop bailing out just because 2-3 people died then I'm sure leaders won't be afraid. As I said I could care less. If someone died I'd laugh and make jokes then stand next to them and die right beside the person too but sadly that's how FFXI has become.

[Daemon]

One of the best parties I joined, the leader was a kind lady. It was my first time in PW. Not only did she not care about my equipment. She was making sure all new players knew the quests needed. My first run Plenitas Virga was the item I put up in my comment.

The item dropped. She asked who put the item up for comment and only I responded. People started warping but she stayed to the very end and said "I didn't pass because I'm waiting for you to get your item."

That was the best leader I ever saw.

[kylani]

One of the best parties I joined, the leader was a kind lady. It was my first time in PW. Not only did she not care about my equipment. She was making sure all new players knew the quests needed. My first run Plenitas Virga was the item I put up in my comment.

The item dropped. She asked who put the item up for comment and only I responded. People started warping but she stayed to the very end and said "I didn't pass because I'm waiting for you to get your item."

That was the best leader I ever saw.

That's what I always liked about FFXI. People weren't just interested into speeding to end game. You made friends, relationships, and memories that will last a lifetime.

Sorry, I like getting gear and advancing, but there's just so much more to FFXI than acquiring the best gear, so I get testy, probably because the overall mindset seems to have changed so much. People always wanted to level, but it seemed there were more folks who enjoyed the journey in years past. Fortunately, there are still a few folks who still do.