My mistake I guess? But doesn't change a whole lot: you have zero reasons to go in a group except for that one reason you mentioned (and I assume because of faster queue time?). There is no reward for going in a group and infact only recently they lifted the solo requirement for most queues.
Infact I would say that, the reason you mentioned for going in a premade, which is about not wanting to deal with player's "Randomness", kind of proves that the DF tool is toxic enough. As toxic as parser however? I can't tell, since we don't have it, but judging by the amount of threads about people complaining in their dungeon runs I think that DF can be toxic enough to cause players to avoid it completely.
Also about the BLM facts: I only said that I know how to play it, because I can dish out enough damage, I don't die as often, and overall I contribute to the run enough to say "Well, I did ok, so I guess I know how to play it now".
Never I said that I'm the best at it: infact yes, my spell speed is low because I have certain pieces that don't have spell speed. I don't care about playing BiS but I care enough to play well enough to not be an hindrance: all I care is to dish out enough damage without dying and whether my item level is low or high, I couldn't give any care. Could I get better in terms of gear? Certainly, but most of my Lore gear is on my tanks and considering how small is the weekly cap I can't gear two jobs properly, so I stick with what I get. If I was a raider I can assure you that my stats would be different but I really don't care enough to get BiS gear.
But my point remains: my damage is high enough (since I could see it), I don't die (so I'm not an hindrance), and for what I know (as in, dungeons and alex normal), I'm doing ok overall, which is more than I could ask.
And all thanks to the parser because I managed to see my numbers and say "yeah, I'm doing well!". Infact if it wasn't for it, I wouldn't even bother with dpsing.
But there's always room for improvement....when I'll care, that is.